Man & Woman

22 April 2018 Sunday 4:22pm

If peace can only be found within – which is another way of saying, “I’ve found out how to be happy with myself,” then how come some people pay crazy money to get advice and be trained to be able to be happy with themselves?

That is because many still believe that the only way to be happy is to have the perfect relationship. And that includes the relationship with themselves. Some unhappy people are always looking for solutions to their unhappiness. They believe that with the proper advice and with the proper guidance they will surely find the prefect relationship that will bring them true happiness for the rest of their lives. There is no such thing as true happiness. There is only true peace. And that peace can never be found outside of you. It is from within. When the soul has accepted this truth, that is when the soul will no longer need anything. Not even a relationship.

Then what are you talking about when you speak of the relationship of man and woman being the saving factor of this world from its own destruction? Isn’t that pertaining towards us working towards a perfect relationship? Which you have just mentioned that a soul at peace with itself does not need?

Do you have peace?

Yes, I have peace.

Do you need a relationship right now?

No, not really.

But it would be nice to be in one, yes?

Yes. It would be fun to have someone to hang around with.

But it is not compulsory for you?

Nope.

Even for the rest of your life?

Yup. Where is this going, God?

Just checking. Checking how you are.

So how am I?

You’re perfectly fine.

I am, aren’t I? With or without a relationship, I am perfectly fine.

But it would be fun?

Yes, most definitely. If you call a lot of hard work fun, then yes.

It’s all a matter of having the right mindset, my dear.

I know that. If I didn’t have the right mindset, do you think I’d have reached this far?

No, you wouldn’t have. But with you, my dear, anything is possible.

Thank you for that vote of confidence. But you still haven’t answered my question – Why is the relationship of a man and a woman the saving factor of this world from its own destruction?

This world is an illusion, you already know that. I created the illusion of dyads in order for myself to experience myself, you already know that too. And the greatest illusion of all is that of man and woman. At the moment you also know that the spiritual make of this dyad is, as you like to say, out of whack. The mistaken belief in the illusion that the male is superior to the female is the root of all your problems in this world. If you can’t fix that then there is nothing you can fix. All of you created that mistaken belief for a purpose. And that is for all of you to experience that it doesn’t work. We have now come at an era where the world is waking up to this truth. Most of you are now awake from the deep sleep of that mistaken belief. But here’s the problem – now that most of you know the problem, most of you also are still not very sure how to fix the problem.

So how do we fix the problem?

What we’re doing here is a good start. We are discussing the problem. And we are putting it out into the world for everyone to digest and maybe come up with their own discussions and suggestions about the problem.

God, you’re sort of going round and round. You still haven’t answered my question about the man-woman-relationship thing.

I can’t answer the question because you yourself do not know the answer, my dear. I am just your word processor, remember?

I forget, actually. Anyway, since this is as far as we’re gonna get on the subject I’ll stop here. I have to prepare dinner now. Thank you for always being around to discuss what’s messing around with my peace.

You’re very welcome. That’s what I am – peace.

Teleserye

old tvI was ready to go out with mum this afternoon.

When I went to the living room, she was still in her house dress watching her favorite teleserye (TV drama).

“Ano? Alis ba tayo?” I asked. (So? Are we going out?)

“Oo. Sandali lang. Tapusin ko muna ito,” she said. (Yes. In a while. I just want to finish this.)

“Fine.” I plonked myself at the other end of the sofa.

I wasn’t really into teleseryes but since I had time to kill…

I watched the screen mindlessly at first but as the story unfolded, something…(you guessed it) something boomed at me. (Everything has a purpose, remember?)

The storyline today—the protagonist is in prison, accused of rape. It seems his mother is doing all she can to appeal for his release even to the point of disrupting an elegant party by harassing the presiding judge for her son’s case.

She pleads with the judge to listen to her because it seems she has evidence that her son did not commit the crime.

The host wasn’t too happy with the scene this woman was creating so she requests her security people to get rid of her and her husband. A sort of struggle ensues. The desperate mother falls in the pool with her husband diving in after her to ensure her safety. They leave the party looking like drenched rats with everyone staring after them.

Scene change: at their home–the husband confronts his wife, pleading with her to please stop harassing others to release their son from prison. He advises her to relax and take a break for a few days to reflect and think about the course of action they should take.

“But we have to help our son!” she shouts.

“Not like this. When you’re always so angry. Your anger is not the way to free him,” says the husband.

Scene change: prison visitors’ area—girlfriend of accused is waiting for him. She waits and waits but he doesn’t show up and she sheds tears as she gets up and leaves with a heartbroken expression on her face. He’s actually hiding, watching her, heartbroken as well.

This scene is played and dissolved a couple of more times showing both of them crying their hearts out unbeknownst to each other.

They eventually see each other when his mother tricks him at one visit by bringing his girlfriend along. He has no choice but to confront her.

She asks the obvious question—Why?

He tells her he doesn’t love her anymore and that all those stuff he told her before were all lies and he was bored with her. She didn’t believe him at first but she eventually leaves, heartbroken.

Scene change: inside the prison—the accused is talking to another inmate, admitting that he lied to his girlfriend about not loving her anymore. He didn’t want her to feel obligated to wait for him while he is in prison. He admits he still loves her very much and that it is love that made him lie in order for her to be free of him.

He cries as he takes her photo and burns it on a flame of a candle. (Are lighted candles allowed in prison?)

Credits roll and a teaser of the next episode for tomorrow is shown.

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Mum stretches, aims the remote with a click and stands up, “O, ‘lika na. Magbibihis lang ako.” (Let’s go. I’ll just change.)

“Palabas rin ba yan bukas ganitong oras?” I ask. (Will the next episode be the same time tomorrow?)

Methinks the protagonist lied to his girlfriend because obviously he didn’t want her to feel obligated to the relationship. In a way, he was freeing her to enable her to create her own reality.

With regards to the mother’s desperation in helping her son, I think it would be more effective if she thought of it in a positive way. If he is truly innocent then her thoughts should be of gratitude instead of anger and desperation.

Our consciousness is so powerful it can free our loved ones from their fears. Or it can imprison them in it forever.