20 April 2018 Friday 8:05am
“Wanna know what I think is one of the causes of broken relationships these days? It’s because we’ve forgotten the art of compartmentalizing. Some of us are no longer able to discern the line between the tangible & the intangible. One is of the soul. The other is of this world”
That was my tweet yesterday. Can you please explain what compartmentalizing means?
Didn’t you just read something about that online?
I did. I even shared the URL as a tweet. But it’s still blurry. I know you can make it much simpler to understand.
Thank you for your faith in me.
You’re welcome. Um…Where did that suddenly come from?
It’s doesn’t matter. Okay, let’s talk about compartments.
No. Not compartments – compartmentalizing.
We’ll get to that. Meaning of “compartment”, please.
Coming right up. Okay. “Compartment” has a few meanings. I choose this one, “a part or space marked or partitioned off.”
Does anything come to mind? An object perhaps? That reminds you of the word “compartment”?
Yeah. My jewellery box. I’ve got this little box which is sectioned into little compartments. Each one keeps an earring or two.
Why do you compartmentalize your jewellery?
So they’re organised. It’s easy for me to choose which ones I want to wear. A girl can’t have enough earrings or ear accessories, you know. It just makes an outfit look complete.
Maybe you mean, it makes you feel more confident?
Yes, maybe that’s what I mean too. We’ve digressed again, God. We’re supposed to be talking about compartments. Or rather, compartmentilizing.
Maybe you mean, we jumped from one compartment into another?
One minute we were talking about the meaning of compartment. The next we jumped to talking about your jewellery. What actually happened was that we took away the partition from between two subjects – one topic is about the meaning of a word. And the other topic is an example of the meaning of that word – which is your jewellery box. We created one compartment out of both topics.
So are we compartmentilizing?
No, what we did is the opposite of compartmentilizing. We integrated two topics into one.
Is that good or bad?
It depends on where you wish to go, my dear. And there’s no such thing as good or bad. There is only what works and what doesn’t work in terms of what you are trying to achieve. And what we are trying to achieve here is to explain a complex topic in simpler terms. Taking something from one compartment (let’s call this compartment “Tangibles ”) to explain a complex topic (let’s call this compartment “Intangibles”) is our method of explaining to the world all about a very, very, very complex topic called the soul.
In other words, we are always taking stuff from the box labelled TANGIBLES to explain whatever is in the box labelled INTANGIBLES.
You got it.
Why do we need to use tangible stuff to explain about stuff about our intangible soul? Why can’t you just explain in words?
Words do not have much retention power. Here’s an example – let’s say, a few months from now you come across the word “compartmentilize” again. And you suddenly remember asking me about it in your diary. What words come to mind which you can use as key words in your search tool?
Precisely. Now do you understand?
Not really. I’m still blurry about how to compartmentilize.
When was the first time you came across the word?
From a movie, actually. “The Holiday” starring Jude Law, Cameron Diaz, Kate Winslet and Jack Black. I know, I know, I’m name-dropping. Sue me.
So what was it about? I mean, how was the word “compartmentalize” used in the movie?
Jude and Cameron’s characters flew sparks right from the very beginning. As the relationship went along, Cameron suspects Jude had other girlfriends – she felt he was hiding something. So when she made a surprise visit to his house, she found out he was a widower with two young daughters. She asked him why he didn’t tell her. If I recall correctly, he said he prefers to compartmentilize his life. His family life is one compartment, his love life is another. It makes his life less complicated. I can’t remember his exact words but I think it’s something like that. I have to watch the movie again. One of my fave movies actually. Jack Black’s “boob graze” scene was so funny! Uh-oh, we jumped to another compartment again.
Is it making the topic complicated?
No. Not really. I think as long as we remember to get back on the right track, there won’t be any problem.
Yes. That’s a very important point to remember. Always remember that.
I will. So to get back on the right track, when do “some of us are no longer able to discern the line between the tangible & the intangible” when it comes to compartmentilizing?
Your work is sometimes called your 9 to 5, is it not?
Yup. Most of us are at work from 9am in the morning to 5pm in the evening. But some do overtime. Instead of leaving work at 5pm we stay until late into the night, maybe even until midnight. But of course, those who do, get compensated for their overtime.
As in the tangible called money?
Most of you have families. So when do you have time to spend with the family, giving and receiving love & joy – which are the intangible?
Oh, I know where this is going.
Where is it going?
It’s going to get back into the right track. It’s going to the statement that says, “some of us are no longer able to discern the line between the tangible & the intangible when it comes to compartmentilizing” because we’ve forgotten our priorities in life.
And what may that be?
To nourish and enrich the soul. To sum it all up – compartmentilizing is the art of knowing what matters the most. What matters the most is the nourishment and enrichment of the soul.