About Being A Coward

23 June 2019 Sunday 6:42pm

Just now, walking past a sitting area under the block of flats in my neighbourhood, I happen to glance at a couple of elderly men in wheelchairs and their caregivers. They were probably there just to relax and watch people walking by. But the women did not look like they were relaxing at all. One of them was sitting on the stone bench. She was using a sarong to cover her front because her Tshirt was pulled up at the back. The other woman was standing behind her. She looked like she was inspecting her friend’s back. I noticed reddish welts. And they certainly didn’t look like they were bug bites. It looked like she leaned back against a fence with diagonal metal bars. I only glanced for a couple of seconds but I knew at once they were burn marks. I walked on, pretending not to have noticed. I don’t think they saw me. By then the blood began to pound in my head and my heart beat a little faster. I thought, Shouldn’t I turn back and help her to report the abuse to the authorities or something? But still I walked on. I felt like crying and I felt angry at the same time. Why didn’t I turn back, G?

You tell me, dear one.

I didn’t turn back because…because…I’m a coward!

What is a coward, my dear?

A coward is “a person who lacks courage in facing danger, difficulty, opposition, pain, etc. A timid or easily intimidated person.”

So are you a person who lacks courage in facing danger, difficulty, opposition, pain, etc.? Are you a timid or an easily intimidated person? Be honest with yourself.

No. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be doing this.

Doing what, dear?

Helping women to not be oppressed anymore.

There’s your answer.

But I didn’t turn back! That’s not helping women!

Abuse is rooted in a belief. We are all about helping women change the belief that they deserve less respect than men. And we are also helping men change this belief. A belief is of the soul and mind. You didn’t turn back because your soul knows true change is from the soul. You are already helping that woman by bringing awareness to her particular situation. Because her situation is not uncommon. Will you be posting this online?

Yes, I suppose.

There you go. In order to help one woman, you have to help bring awareness to the problems most women are experiencing.

But what about that abused woman? Who will help her not be abused anymore?

Only she can help herself. And revealing her predicament to another is already one way of doing that. Let us hope they will help each other do the right thing. And you seeing evidence of her abuse is not a happenstance. Everything that happens in your life is never a happenstance. Everything that shows up in your life has a purpose. Your experiences are tools to help you evolve to the grandest and highest version of your spiritual self.

Not helping that woman is certainly not the grandest and highest version of my spiritual self. I’m still feeling guilty that I didn’t turn back to help.

You still can, you know.

I can still what?

Turn back.

I don’t think so. She might not be there anymore.

What if you see her again? Will you ask her about her predicament?

I really don’t know the answer to that. There are so many things to consider.

Like what, my dear?

Like would she be embarrassed if a total stranger confronted her about her back? Maybe they aren’t even burn marks. Then I’ll be the one embarrassed. Or her employer might find out that someone else knows about her predicament and then she might be abused even more.

You do know, my child, that those are just guesswork. Also known as excuses. They are mere speculations. Which means they do not exist.

Also known as fears.

Yes.

Then I am a coward after all.

You may say whatever you say you are, dear one. But what you are doing or not doing is not as important as what you are being. What do you think you are being?

I’m being a coward.

Tell me what is a coward again, please.

A coward is “a person who lacks courage in facing danger, difficulty, opposition, pain, etc. A timid or easily intimidated person.”

Is a coward being fearful or being courageous?

A coward is being fearful.

Are you in fear right now?

Not now, no. But I was when I passed by that abused woman!

Are you very sure she was abused?

No, I’m not one hundred percent sure. Where is this going?

This is going nowhere until you are one hundred percent sure that she was abused.

But the only way to be one hundred percent sure is to walk up to her and ask her to her face!

Then do it.

I don’t want to!

Why not?

Because I’m a coward!

I give up.

God is giving up. That’s laughable.

Man & Woman

22 April 2018 Sunday 4:22pm

If peace can only be found within – which is another way of saying, “I’ve found out how to be happy with myself,” then how come some people pay crazy money to get advice and be trained to be able to be happy with themselves?

That is because many still believe that the only way to be happy is to have the perfect relationship. And that includes the relationship with themselves. Some unhappy people are always looking for solutions to their unhappiness. They believe that with the proper advice and with the proper guidance they will surely find the prefect relationship that will bring them true happiness for the rest of their lives. There is no such thing as true happiness. There is only true peace. And that peace can never be found outside of you. It is from within. When the soul has accepted this truth, that is when the soul will no longer need anything. Not even a relationship.

Then what are you talking about when you speak of the relationship of man and woman being the saving factor of this world from its own destruction? Isn’t that pertaining towards us working towards a perfect relationship? Which you have just mentioned that a soul at peace with itself does not need?

Do you have peace?

Yes, I have peace.

Do you need a relationship right now?

No, not really.

But it would be nice to be in one, yes?

Yes. It would be fun to have someone to hang around with.

But it is not compulsory for you?

Nope.

Even for the rest of your life?

Yup. Where is this going, God?

Just checking. Checking how you are.

So how am I?

You’re perfectly fine.

I am, aren’t I? With or without a relationship, I am perfectly fine.

But it would be fun?

Yes, most definitely. If you call a lot of hard work fun, then yes.

It’s all a matter of having the right mindset, my dear.

I know that. If I didn’t have the right mindset, do you think I’d have reached this far?

No, you wouldn’t have. But with you, my dear, anything is possible.

Thank you for that vote of confidence. But you still haven’t answered my question – Why is the relationship of a man and a woman the saving factor of this world from its own destruction?

This world is an illusion, you already know that. I created the illusion of dyads in order for myself to experience myself, you already know that too. And the greatest illusion of all is that of man and woman. At the moment you also know that the spiritual make of this dyad is, as you like to say, out of whack. The mistaken belief in the illusion that the male is superior to the female is the root of all your problems in this world. If you can’t fix that then there is nothing you can fix. All of you created that mistaken belief for a purpose. And that is for all of you to experience that it doesn’t work. We have now come at an era where the world is waking up to this truth. Most of you are now awake from the deep sleep of that mistaken belief. But here’s the problem – now that most of you know the problem, most of you also are still not very sure how to fix the problem.

So how do we fix the problem?

What we’re doing here is a good start. We are discussing the problem. And we are putting it out into the world for everyone to digest and maybe come up with their own discussions and suggestions about the problem.

God, you’re sort of going round and round. You still haven’t answered my question about the man-woman-relationship thing.

I can’t answer the question because you yourself do not know the answer, my dear. I am just your word processor, remember?

I forget, actually. Anyway, since this is as far as we’re gonna get on the subject I’ll stop here. I have to prepare dinner now. Thank you for always being around to discuss what’s messing around with my peace.

You’re very welcome. That’s what I am – peace.

Foetus vs Child

2 April 2018 Monday 11:03pm

…but a woman knows how to make decisions. And if she gets pregnant, then she gets pregnant. To me, having a baby is a blessing. There are women out there who would sell an arm and a leg just to be able to conceive. And yet when a child is conceived out of wedlock it is considered a curse. A child is a blessing whether its parents are married or not. Am I mistaken about that?

No, you are not. Once again rules of society are at play when it comes to how women should treat their bodies. At the moment, women are fighting for the right to have a say in what decisions they choose for their own bodies, especially when it concerns pregnancy. Your beliefs are the powers that be that have a say on how women should treat their bodies. Abortion is one of your biggest issues at the moment. The irony of it is that when a child is conceived out of wedlock – the situation and condition that the pregnant woman is in, is considered unacceptable in society’s eyes. Anything that which is borne out of wedlock, is also considered a sin. But it is also against your beliefs to get rid of that which is borne out of wedlock – which is abortion. So what is a woman to do?

She can abstain from sex, that’s what she can do.

That’s another one of your beliefs – sex out of wedlock is also a sin.

Well then, there’s the logic, isn’t it? Being pregnant outside marriage is a sin. So having sex out of marriage is also a sin. As for abortion being a sin, it’s like murder to some – murder is a sin.

And yet you have a thing called death penalty.

But that’s because of a heinous crime. A baby hasn’t committed any crime!

Isn’t a criminal in death row once a baby?

Argh! I don’t know where you’re coming from sometimes!

I’m coming from the truth, my child. So do you still think there’s logic in those beliefs?

Wait. What is “logic” anyway? Hang on. Okay. Logic means “a particular method of reasoning or argumentation.” Sample sentence is “We were unable to follow his logic.

So do you still think there’s sound reasoning with those beliefs? That it’s a sin to have sex outside of marriage? And that it’s also a sin to get pregnant outside of marriage? And then if the woman gets pregnant out of marriage, it’s also a sin to abort the foetus? So what is a woman to do if she’s already with child?

Wait a sec. First you called it a “foetus” and then next, you called it a “child.” So which is it?

Is there a difference?

The dictionary defines “foetus” as “the young of an animal in the womb or egg, especially in the later stages of development when the body structures are in the recognizable form of its kind, in humans after the end of the second month of gestation.” As for the word “child” the dictionary says it’s “a person between birth and full growth; a boy or girl.” But the dictionary says that the word “child” also means “a human foetus.”

So is there a difference between the word “child” and the word “foetus”?

Um…Yes and no. No, there’s no difference because a child in a womb is a foetus. And yes, there’s a difference to the meaning we give each word.

How so?

To me, “foetus” sounds like it’s not a person yet. As in, it’s not fully human yet. When it comes to the word “child” I feel like it already has its own mind. Or maybe even a soul.

Everything has a soul, my child – even plants. Anyway, I get where you’re coming from. Now imagine this – there’s a group that says they are for abortion. Let’s call them the Anti-Foetus Group. Now imagine another group that says they are against abortion. Let’s call them the Pro-Child Group. And these two groups are always at each other’s faces, shouting at each other, protesting that their group is right. Who do you think will win? The Anti-Foetus Group or the Pro-Child Group?

I have no idea. The word “foetus” & “child” mean exactly the same thing.

Precisely. Both groups are not fighting for the foetus or the child. They are fighting for the meaning they are giving to the words. It’s all about the meaning. And what is a meaning? A meaning is a thought. You are all fighting over a thought.

But a child in a womb is not a thought. It’s a living, breathing entity.

It’s not breathing yet.

Well, it has a heartbeat, that’s for sure.

So you’re Pro-Child?

Since you put it that way, maybe I am. My purpose is for all children after all.

As in living, breathing children?

Yes—wait. Haha. Nice trick. So are you saying that a foetus that isn’t breathing yet is not a child?

Didn’t we already discuss the meaning of the words “foetus” and “child”?

Fine. So are you saying they’re the same but they’re not the same?

Let me just say this – words can help you or words can destroy you. And it’s all because of the meaning or meanings you give each word. And most of the time you are all fighting over the meaning. And as I have said, a meaning is a thought. Most of the time you are fighting over a thought. Does that make sense to you?

I don’t know. Sometimes, nothing makes sense in this world anymore.

You can make something make sense with any sense anytime you wish, my child. By giving it meaning.

Oh no. I’m not going back there again. Meaning is a thought, thought is meaning, fighting over a thought which is the meaning. It’s a losing battle!

That’s the problem. Why does it have to be a battle? Why can’t it be a discussion?

Don’t ask me! I’m just writing stuff here.

I know, dear. I know.