Thought vs Feeling

5 April 2019 Friday 8:26am

Thoughts are not feelings, they are ideas of how you “should” feel. When thoughts and feelings get confused, truth becomes clouded, lost.~ Neale Donald Walsch

So what’s the difference between thought and feeling?

When you’re hungry, what do you feel?

Hunger.

When you’re hungry, what are you thinking?

I’m thinking I need to eat.

That’s the difference.

Huh? I don’t understand.

Hunger is a feeling. The word ‘hunger’ is the name you gave to a sensation in your body wanting food. That sensation is the feeling.

But isn’t ‘feeling hungry’ also a thought?

Yes. A thought is the meaning you give to a feeling. A thought is also what you do about the feeling. Imagine a world with no words. If there weren’t any words to describe ‘hunger’ what will happen?

I guess no one will know that I’m feeling hungry.

No, child. You can communicate with your body even without words. If you suddenly look pale and weak, wouldn’t someone deduce that you’re probably feeling hungry?

I suppose so. Um, I still can’t see the difference.

Read Neale’s quote again—the first sentence.

Okay. “Thoughts are not feelings, they are ideas of how you “should” feel.”

Try to use the concept of hunger in that sentence.

I’ll try. Okay…The thought that I need to eat is not a feeling. It is an idea of what I should do about the feeling of hunger.

Now, read the next sentence.

Okay. “When thoughts and feelings get confused, truth becomes clouded, lost.” This one sounds complicated.

Only if you believe it is so. Now do the same.

Use it with the concept of hunger?

Yes.

Oh man. Here goes..The THOUGHT that I need to eat just because I’m FEELING hungry is confusing, my truth becomes clouded and lost. That doesn’t make any sense. When anyone is feeling hungry he will definitely put into action the thought of eating. That’s the way it works. What’s confusing about that?

Have you heard of the expression, “I skipped lunch”? Or “I skipped breakfast”? Or “I’m on a diet”? Or…

Okay, I get it. Just because someone is feeling hungry that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s going to eat. So if someone is feeling hungry and yet doesn’t eat, what does that show us about confusing thought with feeling? And the truth gets clouded and lost if you do?

When you in particular get hungry, what do you do?

I have to eat something. Even if it’s just some crackers or biscuits. I always try to have some with me, especially when I’m travelling. Because if I don’t, I’ll feel nauseous and dizzy. It’s a very yucky feeling. I tried fasting before—hated it. Fasting isn’t for me. I prefer to eat smaller meals if I really have to fast. Anyway, I’m still confused. Thought and feeling—what’s the difference?

Maybe hunger isn’t the appropriate concept to use to explain it. How about something else?

Like?

Like love, for instance.

Nah. Let’s stick with hunger.

Unsung Heroes

3 February 2019 Sunday 4:19pm

I was re-reading some entries in my diary when I came across one that I posted in my blog. It’s about the quote from Neale: “Your life is not about you.” We discussed about how drinking coffee and using shampoo benefit others because of the jobs they provide when these products are produced and manufactured. And then we went on to discuss about two earths—one where most of the people meditate, while the people of the other don’t. We also talked about how everything we do affects everything in this world because we are all One Soul. Now, I’m thinking of the other quote that says: “The greatest achievements are those that benefit others.” That sort of contradicts the other quote, doesn’t it?

How so?

The other quote is “Your life is not about you,” which, to me, means everything I do does not benefit me, but benefit others. While the other quote says, “The greatest achievements are those that benefit others,” which, to me, means not all things I do benefit others—only some. But by the way we discussed it previously, it seems everything I do benefits others, not only me. And yet the ‘greatest achievement’ quote says only those that benefit others are the most important. I believe the contradiction is that everything I do benefits others and yet not everything I do benefits others. So which is it?

You are confusing the word ‘benefit’ with the word ‘affect”. The meaning of ‘benefit’ is “something that is advantageous or good; an advantage.” While the meaning of ‘affect’ is “to act on; produce an effect or change in”. It also means “to impress the mind or move the feelings of”. ‘Benefit’ is usually something that is positive. While ‘affecting’ something could be perceived as positive as well as negative. To others, not everything you do will be perceived as positive. There will be those who will perceive some things you do as negative. So it is true when not everything you do is only about you because it will affect others in different ways. And it is also true to say that “the greatest achievements are those that benefit others” especially when those achievements are perceived as positive.

Okay. Wait. Are there achievements that are negative? If it’s negative, I don’t think it should even be called an achievement.

It is a matter of perception, my dear. There are those with unknown achievements. You have a term called “unsung hero”.

Yes. I Googled it and it means “one who does great deeds but receives little or no recognition for them”.

Your world is full of unsung heroes, my dear. They have achievements that have benefited others in more ways than one and yet they do not seek recognition or accolades for their deeds of greatness. Being alive in itself and overcoming life’s problems are great achievements which go unnoticed. Everyone in your world is a hero. With that in mind, do you still think that both quotes are contradicting in some way?

I’m not sure. Maybe I should combine them. Let’s see. Your life is not about you because the greatest achievements are those that benefit others. Hey! I think that works! 

Doesn’t everything? Have you not grown enough spiritually to believe that everything always works out for your good? 

I believe I have. But there’s still a lot of room for growth. And I mean a lot! I’m still doubting what I’m doing here exactly. 

‘Here’ as in this conversation?

No. I mean, ‘here’ as in Planet Earth. Haha.

The Hypothetical World

9 October 2018 Tuesday 7:12am

“What a strange world. With each passing day, it’s getting harder to know how much is just hypothetical and how much is real. Tell me, Tengo, as a novelist, what is your definition of reality?”

“When you prick a person with a needle, red blood comes out—that’s the real world,” Tengo replied.

– 1Q84, A Novel by Haruki Murakami

What’s this about exactly, God?

There are those who are living in fear because they believe the hypothetical is the real world.

What is the hypothetical?

The truth, of course. The truth about life is that all of you are God personified. In the real world, do you go around shouting at the top of your voice, “I am God! I am God!”?

No. People will think I’m crazy.

You are living your life as per normal because you know exactly which is the real world and which is hypothetical. Anything to do with the soul is hypothetical. By the way, do you know the exact meaning of “hypothetical” as in the word “hypothesis”?

Let me look it up. Okay, “hypothesis” means “a proposition, or set of propositions, set forth as an explanation for the occurrence of some specified group of phenomena, either asserted merely as a provisional conjecture to guide investigation (working hypothesis) or accepted as highly probable in the light of established facts.” And it also means “a mere assumption or guess”.

Let’s take the second one. Everything that is related to the spiritual is hypothetical. The spiritual is mere assumptions and guesswork.

By saying that, aren’t we nullifying what we are about here? Because here, we are about the spiritual and we are about the soul. And anything to do with the spiritual and anything about the soul is about God. If we are saying that anything about God is mere assumptions and guessing—as in hypothetical, isn’t that making a mockery of God?

Meaning of “mockery” please.

Um…okay. There are a couple of meanings. One is “ridicule, contempt, or derision”.

That’s the one. Now, replace the word “mockery” in that statement you just said with its meaning.

Okay. If we are saying that anything about God is mere assumptions and guessing—as in hypothetical, isn’t that making a “ridicule, contempt or derision” of God?

So are we doing that here? Are we mocking God with these words?

No. Most definitely not. I love you, God.

I know, child. I love you too. But love comes in many forms and interpretations. When a husband physically abuses his wife, sometimes the wife believes that that is love. When a parent punishes his or her child, the parent as well as the child believe the punishment is love. Love is anything you wish it to be. God is love. Is the explanation for love hypothetical? Can you explain exactly what love is?

To some, love is feeding the poor. Isn’t that love in the real world?

No, child. Feeding the poor is showing what love is. Isn’t being kind to animals love as well? Isn’t providing for your family love as well? Isn’t caring for your ageing parents love as well? When doctors and nurses care for their patients, isn’t that love as well? When a leader of a nation works hard to make sure the citizens are not lacking of anything that will make their lives easier and stress-free, isn’t that love as well? When a mother or father leaves family and country to work somewhere far, far away so he or she can give them a better life, isn’t that love? When a—

Okay, I get it. We do all of these things in order to be love just as God is love. We don’t walk around everywhere, shouting at the top our voice, I am love! I am love! Instead we live love in our day-to-day. So these things we do to be love are not the hypothetical explanation of God. These things we do to be love happen in the real world where we physically move our bodies and talk with our lips with actions and words of love.

Yes. So now can you explain what is God exactly?

Huh?

Can you explain exactly what God is without having to use those examples of actions of love in the real world?

Um..Yes, I can. God is everything. Yes! God is everything!

What is everything?

Argh! Everything is everything that exists in this world!

So now, do you understand?

No, I don’t understand! We are trying to figure out why the truth is hypothetical. And we are trying to figure out what’s the difference with what is hypothetical as compared to the real world. I still don’t understand!

Okay. Let me put it this way – what is air?

Oh no.

Don’t think. What’s the first thing that pops into your head. What is air?

It’s the thing we breathe.

Can you see air?

No.

Can you touch it?

I can’t touch it. I can feel it. Especially when it turns into wind.

Can you control it?

Not really, no. But I can contain it—like in a balloon.

The balloon is your physical body. Air is God. The truth is like air—it’s in you, it’s everywhere, you can’t see it but you can feel it. Air is hypothetical just as the truth is hypothetical. Your physical is the real world. Air is everywhere in the real world. Just as God is in the real world. In fact, God is the real world as well as the hypothetical world. What is the hypothetical world, my dear?

It’s the spiritual world. God is everywhere so the spiritual world is everywhere. And since the spiritual world is hypothetical, then the hypothetical is everywhere too. We are in a hypothetical world as well as a real world. Yay! I understand.

Understanding only happens when you believe.

I definitely believe. Otherwise I won’t be doing this.

Doing what, my dear?

Argh. Let’s end this, please?

Never.