The Bling Heart

11 July 2018 Wednesday 10:23pm

“Losing a loved one has a way of putting everything in perspective… please explain that one to me.”

That was a tweet from someone I follow on Twitter. He recently lost his 19 year-old son who died in his sleep. Can you please help us understand the phrase “has a way of putting everything in perspective”? Which I believe people like to say to someone who has just had a devastating or traumatic experience happen in their life.

What does the word “perspective” mean?

I found two relevant meanings on Dictionary app: One—the state of one’s ideas, the facts known to one, etc., in having a meaningful interrelationship.” Sample sentence is: “You have to live here a few years to see local conditions in perspective.” And the second meaning is “the faculty of seeing all the relevant data in a meaningful relationship.” Sample sentence is: “Your data is admirably detailed but it lacks perspective.”

Why do you think these two definitions are relevant to our discussion?

Well, because they mention the word “relationship”. Isn’t our discussion about relationships?

Yes, it is. So now repeat that statement above and let’s see how the definitions relate to it.

Okay. “Losing a loved one has a way of putting everything in perspective.” So now, I guess I’m supposed to replace the word “perspective” with its meaning?

Go ahead. Let’s see if we can expand on it.

Here goes—Losing a loved one has a way of putting everything into showing the facts one knows about having a meaningful interrelationship. Hm, that actually makes sense.

How so?

Many of us actually know the basic principles of how to maintain a strong and loving relationship. But many of us are sometimes too busy with matters of this world that we sort of put our own relationships with ourselves and with our own family to the back burner. What I mean is—our own self-growth and family interrelationships are not at the top of our To-do list. Sometimes we learn this folly the hard way. We don’t realise we had it good until we lose it—as the saying goes. It is when we lose someone we love that we sometimes realise we could have done so, so much more in making that relationship into a loving and enriching one.

That last sentence is the explanation, my dear. But to expand even more on it—imagine the word “perspective” in that statement as a jigsaw puzzle in the shape of a heart. And that heart-shaped puzzle shows all the relationships you’ve had in a span of a lifetime. When you are born, your life is like the outline of a heart which is a jigsaw puzzle—no pieces in place yet except for that one piece which is yourself. Let’s place it right in the middle. You are now standing alone in the middle of a heart-shaped jigsaw puzzle with no piece in place. As an infant, you have no perspective yet of who you really are because you are not able to make deliberate conscious choices when it comes to relationships. You have subconscious choices, of course, like instinctively relating to your birth mother or father. You are still not aware of these choices. It is when you learn to make conscious choices that you begin to acquire the other pieces of that heart-shaped puzzle. You will be acquiring these pieces as you go along through life. So now, you have a couple of pieces which are from your mother and father. (There are now several deviations when it comes to what is a family—but let’s keep it to the basic to make for easier discussion.) You may have pieces that are from your siblings. There will be from your relatives, like your grandparents, uncles and aunties, if any. As you grow into adulthood, there will be pieces coming from your teachers, friends, co-workers, lovers, husbands and wives, children, etc, etc. Now, as you stand in the middle with all these pieces around you, you begin to see the “perspective”. You begin to see who you really are in relation to all these relationships—which we refer to here as pieces of a puzzle that is the shape of you. Because this world is actually nothing but relationships. There might be pieces that you would see as brilliant in colour and there will be those that are not so brilliant—dim, in fact, because these particular pieces of relationships do not shine that much for you. And then there will be pieces that may have cracks in them.

I know what those are—broken relationships.

Yes.

What about a relationship whereby a parent loses a child that he or she loves very much? A child who never reached his or her fullest potential? What kind of jigsaw piece would that look like?

If there was immense love, then it would be a brilliant one.

But the parent’s heart is broken upon the child’s death. It can’t really have a crack on it, now can it?

You tell me how that piece would look like. After all, you have a very rich imagination.

Me? I don’t think so. Anyway, if I lost a child (touch wood) who I never saw grow up, I imagine that tiny jigsaw piece to be brilliant but there’ll be a shape of a teardrop on it. You know, like the crying emoticon.

A very good visual.

Thank you. So let’s get back to that statement. “Losing a loved one has a way of putting everything in perspective.” I’m thinking—is this meant to judge the heartbroken? Or is it meant to uplift?

The meaning of everything is the meaning you give it, my child. Imagine that you have just lost your loved one and you are grieving. You are looking at your heart-shaped jigsaw puzzle of life with all its pieces that are shining brightly and some not so bright. You have in your hand that little piece which is the symbol of your relationship with your lost loved one. That brilliant piece with a teardrop on it. Do you see any other piece that looks like that in your heart-shaped puzzle?

Of course. There’s my Dad’s piece. And then there’s that piece that represents my marriage.

Ah, your marriage. Which led to a divorce. Will that piece be brilliant or dim? Because how brilliant or how dim each piece will be is entirely up to you. Did a relationship enrich your life? Did you partake of any life lessons from it? Did it make you sad? Or depressed? Did it devastate? Is the relationship still active? Has it died?

I guess it would be brilliant because I’ve learnt a lot from it. And since I can choose how I perceive a relationship, then I want all the pieces in my heart-shaped jigsaw puzzle to be brilliant. How awesome that would look like! A heart-shaped puzzle that is so bling!

Yes, that heart would definitely shine for all the world to see. That is how the heart of a true master looks like.

The Followers & The Challengers

12 May 2018 Saturday 3:55pm

“Dear Neale…I have been wondering about the role of personality in the mechanics of the mind and system of the soul. I observe that some people have personalities that seem to make it easier for them to operate successfully in our culture — i.e. follow rules and religious doctrine while others are challenging rules and not accepting of structures that govern and make the rules. Can you discuss the role of personality?”

This was on Neale’s website. Neale wrote an explanation but it’s sort of complicated for my kind of intellect.

What is your kind of intellect?

Um…I’m simple? I’m of a simple intellect.

No, dear. You wouldn’t have come as far as you have with just a simple intellect. The soul is simple but complex.

But I just said that Neale’s reply to the query was complicated. And now you’re saying my intellect is simple but complex. If I was also complex then I would have understood what Neale was talking about.

I said the soul is simple and complex. The soul knows no rules. I’m sure you’ll agree with me when I say that rules make life complicated. Therefore the soul is simple because the soul is free. The soul is also complex because the soul knows everything. The knowing of everything is immense, to say the least. And isn’t the soul life? Isn’t life complex? Therefore the soul is also complex. Now, let me ask you – do you always know exactly what your soul is up to?

No.

Why do you think that is so?

At first, I think I know what I’m doing because I’m thinking of the conscious purpose of what I’m doing while I’m doing whatever it is I’m doing. But later on, I’ll realise that what I was doing had a different purpose altogether. It was a subconscious or even superconscious purpose – the purpose of the soul. Does that make sense?

Read it again – what you just wrote. Does it make sense to you?

Yeah, it makes sense.

You have just created a simple explanation of something complex such as what the soul is up to. The soul is me. The soul is capable of anything. In your world, the body, mind and soul have to act as one in order for you to experience your life agenda. It is these acts which are the physical evidence or components of your personality. Your personality is actually what others observe of you. When others see you act out kindness, they will say you have a kind personality. When they see you act out gratitude, they will say you are thankful or polite. When they see that you’re a forgiving person, they will say you have a generous or tolerant personality. When they see you act out violence, they will say you have a violent personality.

Woah! That was quite a leap there. From kindness to gratitude to forgiving to generous, then bam – violent! C’mon, you gotta ease me into it, God. Maybe put in anger or resentment, or piqued in there somewhere before we jump into violence.

My apologies. But you must agree, dear one, that violence in your world does show up violently out of nowhere sometimes.

I agree. Anyway, we haven’t really discussed the real query – what’s the role of one’s personality in connection with one’s mind and soul? And why are there personalities who prefer to practice religious beliefs & doctrines as compared to those that challenge them?

Let me quote the exact words used because they are key in explaining exactly what the topic is about – which is about personality. The exact words are “some people have personalities that seem to make it easier for them to operate successfully in your culture — i.e. follow rules and religious doctrine while others are challenging rules and not accepting of structures that govern and make the rules.” Do you know of any personalities who are examples of the first group of people mentioned? Let’s call them the Easy Followers.

Um…

Never mind. It doesn’t matter. How about the other group of people? Let’s call them Challengers.

Yeah. Neale and his friends, I guess.

Are you one of Neale’s friends?

I like to think so.

He does too. So do you call yourself one of The Challengers?

Like yeah.

Have you always had a personality that is a trait of being a challenger?

Nope. I’ve only just recently become a challenger. Like about 5 years ago. That was when I realised my life purpose. Before that, I would have called myself an Easy Follower because at that time I was operating by following rules and religious doctrines.

You forgot the word “successfully” in there somewhere – operating successfully by following rules.

I don’t think so.

Fair enough. So to get back to the query: What role does personality play in being Easy Followers or in being Challengers?

I’m not sure. But I think one can already deduce by what we call each group. Which I think is not very nice of us to do so.

Do what, dear?

You know, call people names by their personalities.

What do you think the names mean?

One name may mean that the personality of the person prefers to follow rules because it’s easier – easy life. While the other is not so easy – a challenging life.

Don’t you consider yourself one of the Challengers?

Yes.

Is your life challenging at the moment?

At this very moment, yes! This conversation we’re having is really tough! I’m afraid of offending someone.

You, afraid?

Always.

But tough?

I try.

Would you consider the role of your personality as being afraid and being tough when it concerns the “mechanics of the mind” and the “system of the soul”?

I suppose so. Being afraid is of the mind. Being tough is of the soul. Afraid and tough – that’s an odd personality combination, though.

Not really. Love and fear go hand in hand in your world.

For now.

Yes, dear. For now.

Man & Woman

22 April 2018 Sunday 4:22pm

If peace can only be found within – which is another way of saying, “I’ve found out how to be happy with myself,” then how come some people pay crazy money to get advice and be trained to be able to be happy with themselves?

That is because many still believe that the only way to be happy is to have the perfect relationship. And that includes the relationship with themselves. Some unhappy people are always looking for solutions to their unhappiness. They believe that with the proper advice and with the proper guidance they will surely find the prefect relationship that will bring them true happiness for the rest of their lives. There is no such thing as true happiness. There is only true peace. And that peace can never be found outside of you. It is from within. When the soul has accepted this truth, that is when the soul will no longer need anything. Not even a relationship.

Then what are you talking about when you speak of the relationship of man and woman being the saving factor of this world from its own destruction? Isn’t that pertaining towards us working towards a perfect relationship? Which you have just mentioned that a soul at peace with itself does not need?

Do you have peace?

Yes, I have peace.

Do you need a relationship right now?

No, not really.

But it would be nice to be in one, yes?

Yes. It would be fun to have someone to hang around with.

But it is not compulsory for you?

Nope.

Even for the rest of your life?

Yup. Where is this going, God?

Just checking. Checking how you are.

So how am I?

You’re perfectly fine.

I am, aren’t I? With or without a relationship, I am perfectly fine.

But it would be fun?

Yes, most definitely. If you call a lot of hard work fun, then yes.

It’s all a matter of having the right mindset, my dear.

I know that. If I didn’t have the right mindset, do you think I’d have reached this far?

No, you wouldn’t have. But with you, my dear, anything is possible.

Thank you for that vote of confidence. But you still haven’t answered my question – Why is the relationship of a man and a woman the saving factor of this world from its own destruction?

This world is an illusion, you already know that. I created the illusion of dyads in order for myself to experience myself, you already know that too. And the greatest illusion of all is that of man and woman. At the moment you also know that the spiritual make of this dyad is, as you like to say, out of whack. The mistaken belief in the illusion that the male is superior to the female is the root of all your problems in this world. If you can’t fix that then there is nothing you can fix. All of you created that mistaken belief for a purpose. And that is for all of you to experience that it doesn’t work. We have now come at an era where the world is waking up to this truth. Most of you are now awake from the deep sleep of that mistaken belief. But here’s the problem – now that most of you know the problem, most of you also are still not very sure how to fix the problem.

So how do we fix the problem?

What we’re doing here is a good start. We are discussing the problem. And we are putting it out into the world for everyone to digest and maybe come up with their own discussions and suggestions about the problem.

God, you’re sort of going round and round. You still haven’t answered my question about the man-woman-relationship thing.

I can’t answer the question because you yourself do not know the answer, my dear. I am just your word processor, remember?

I forget, actually. Anyway, since this is as far as we’re gonna get on the subject I’ll stop here. I have to prepare dinner now. Thank you for always being around to discuss what’s messing around with my peace.

You’re very welcome. That’s what I am – peace.