Soul Oneness

6 October 2018 Saturday 7:54am

Our soul Oneness takes precedence over our physical Oneness.

I don’t think this is one hundred percent true, because I just read an article about how we are so lacking in physical touching – especially among men. But really thinking about it, I believe that’s not exactly true either. It is only customary to shake hands with people you’ve just been introduced to because we are respecting each other’s personal space. With acquaintances, maybe we push it up a notch with a fist bump and shoulder hug, or a high five – for men. A kiss on the cheek or two, or a quick hug which work for both men and women, depending on the culture. There’s also rubbing of noses as a customary way of greeting new friends. And in another culture it’s not uncommon for two men to hold hands who are merely having a platonic relationship. Of course, when it comes to one’s loved ones – generally, touching will be a little more intimate – again depending on the culture, customs and traditions. The article also talked about how some of us have the mindset where we judge touching as always having sexual motives.

So what are you trying to say, my child?

I’m just saying that – if we really delve deep into how we relate to each other when it comes to touch – we aren’t so lacking to the point where it has adverse effects on our psyche. (Although, I might mention it’s becoming a problem with certain people whose job require single-hood). We must also accept the fact, that not everyone is comfortable with touching – especially in public. I feel that people who are lacking in human contact are not that common. So when we say that “soul Oneness takes precedence over physical Oneness”, what exactly do we mean? Because more often than not we practice Oneness through touch. As compared to Oneness of the soul.

Imagine this – what would it be like if all – and I mean all the people of the world held each other’s hands for 7 days a week, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year of every year, as a way of being truly One?

Huh? We won’t get anything done!

Precisely. And since that cannot be done (but then again nothing is impossible) when it comes to Oneness, then soul Oneness takes precedence over physical Oneness. Actually, most of you are already practicing soul Oneness.

Yeah. Via the Internet.

Unfortunately, there are those who abuse it.

Yeah. Unfortunately.

The Bling Heart

11 July 2018 Wednesday 10:23pm

“Losing a loved one has a way of putting everything in perspective… please explain that one to me.”

That was a tweet from someone I follow on Twitter. He recently lost his 19 year-old son who died in his sleep. Can you please help us understand the phrase “has a way of putting everything in perspective”? Which I believe people like to say to someone who has just had a devastating or traumatic experience happen in their life.

What does the word “perspective” mean?

I found two relevant meanings on Dictionary app: One—the state of one’s ideas, the facts known to one, etc., in having a meaningful interrelationship.” Sample sentence is: “You have to live here a few years to see local conditions in perspective.” And the second meaning is “the faculty of seeing all the relevant data in a meaningful relationship.” Sample sentence is: “Your data is admirably detailed but it lacks perspective.”

Why do you think these two definitions are relevant to our discussion?

Well, because they mention the word “relationship”. Isn’t our discussion about relationships?

Yes, it is. So now repeat that statement above and let’s see how the definitions relate to it.

Okay. “Losing a loved one has a way of putting everything in perspective.” So now, I guess I’m supposed to replace the word “perspective” with its meaning?

Go ahead. Let’s see if we can expand on it.

Here goes—Losing a loved one has a way of putting everything into showing the facts one knows about having a meaningful interrelationship. Hm, that actually makes sense.

How so?

Many of us actually know the basic principles of how to maintain a strong and loving relationship. But many of us are sometimes too busy with matters of this world that we sort of put our own relationships with ourselves and with our own family to the back burner. What I mean is—our own self-growth and family interrelationships are not at the top of our To-do list. Sometimes we learn this folly the hard way. We don’t realise we had it good until we lose it—as the saying goes. It is when we lose someone we love that we sometimes realise we could have done so, so much more in making that relationship into a loving and enriching one.

That last sentence is the explanation, my dear. But to expand even more on it—imagine the word “perspective” in that statement as a jigsaw puzzle in the shape of a heart. And that heart-shaped puzzle shows all the relationships you’ve had in a span of a lifetime. When you are born, your life is like the outline of a heart which is a jigsaw puzzle—no pieces in place yet except for that one piece which is yourself. Let’s place it right in the middle. You are now standing alone in the middle of a heart-shaped jigsaw puzzle with no piece in place. As an infant, you have no perspective yet of who you really are because you are not able to make deliberate conscious choices when it comes to relationships. You have subconscious choices, of course, like instinctively relating to your birth mother or father. You are still not aware of these choices. It is when you learn to make conscious choices that you begin to acquire the other pieces of that heart-shaped puzzle. You will be acquiring these pieces as you go along through life. So now, you have a couple of pieces which are from your mother and father. (There are now several deviations when it comes to what is a family—but let’s keep it to the basic to make for easier discussion.) You may have pieces that are from your siblings. There will be from your relatives, like your grandparents, uncles and aunties, if any. As you grow into adulthood, there will be pieces coming from your teachers, friends, co-workers, lovers, husbands and wives, children, etc, etc. Now, as you stand in the middle with all these pieces around you, you begin to see the “perspective”. You begin to see who you really are in relation to all these relationships—which we refer to here as pieces of a puzzle that is the shape of you. Because this world is actually nothing but relationships. There might be pieces that you would see as brilliant in colour and there will be those that are not so brilliant—dim, in fact, because these particular pieces of relationships do not shine that much for you. And then there will be pieces that may have cracks in them.

I know what those are—broken relationships.

Yes.

What about a relationship whereby a parent loses a child that he or she loves very much? A child who never reached his or her fullest potential? What kind of jigsaw piece would that look like?

If there was immense love, then it would be a brilliant one.

But the parent’s heart is broken upon the child’s death. It can’t really have a crack on it, now can it?

You tell me how that piece would look like. After all, you have a very rich imagination.

Me? I don’t think so. Anyway, if I lost a child (touch wood) who I never saw grow up, I imagine that tiny jigsaw piece to be brilliant but there’ll be a shape of a teardrop on it. You know, like the crying emoticon.

A very good visual.

Thank you. So let’s get back to that statement. “Losing a loved one has a way of putting everything in perspective.” I’m thinking—is this meant to judge the heartbroken? Or is it meant to uplift?

The meaning of everything is the meaning you give it, my child. Imagine that you have just lost your loved one and you are grieving. You are looking at your heart-shaped jigsaw puzzle of life with all its pieces that are shining brightly and some not so bright. You have in your hand that little piece which is the symbol of your relationship with your lost loved one. That brilliant piece with a teardrop on it. Do you see any other piece that looks like that in your heart-shaped puzzle?

Of course. There’s my Dad’s piece. And then there’s that piece that represents my marriage.

Ah, your marriage. Which led to a divorce. Will that piece be brilliant or dim? Because how brilliant or how dim each piece will be is entirely up to you. Did a relationship enrich your life? Did you partake of any life lessons from it? Did it make you sad? Or depressed? Did it devastate? Is the relationship still active? Has it died?

I guess it would be brilliant because I’ve learnt a lot from it. And since I can choose how I perceive a relationship, then I want all the pieces in my heart-shaped jigsaw puzzle to be brilliant. How awesome that would look like! A heart-shaped puzzle that is so bling!

Yes, that heart would definitely shine for all the world to see. That is how the heart of a true master looks like.

The Cave

5 July 2018 Thursday 7:37am

“You can have faith and just wait without doing anything. Um..No comment. You’re on your own on this one. Good luck!”

I tweeted that the other day. I’m thinking—that’s what those twelve boys and a coach did when they got stuck in that underground cave. But they got results anyway. They were found and are now waiting to leave that cave. So does that mean just having faith and just waiting works?

They’re waiting to leave? What are they waiting for?

The cave is still flooded. The rescuers are helping to drain the water but it’s a slow process. At the moment, the rescuers are helping the boys and the coach gain back their strength and confidence. So they can swim or dive out of the cave despite the flood. It seems the rescuers are thinking of two options: One—find another exit. Two—teach the group how to swim and dive out. But the experienced divers say that even for experienced and expert divers, the flooded cave is super dangerous. And these kids’ health and stamina are not exactly to the max at the moment. I understand the rescuers have brought in 2 weeks worth of supplies, just in case. Man, being stuck in a cave for one day will already freak me out! Poor guys. Luckily, they will also be provided with some communication cable soon, if they haven’t already. Communicating with their loved ones will definitely be a big boost for their morale. So to get back to my question—so this situation just proves that having faith and waiting works after all, yes?

Are they still waiting?

Well, technically yes.

Are they not doing anything?

No. They’re doing plenty! Especially on the rescuers’ side—which I believe has become an international affair.

So to answer your question—Yes, it may work. And no, it may not work.

I think you misunderstood my question. I’m talking about the time before they were rescued. They just waited in that cave for 9 days for someone to rescue them. They probably just had faith and prayed a lot and waited. And yet rescue showed up. Isn’t that doing nothing but have faith?

How did anyone know they were stuck in that cave?

That’s a silly question. Their families would have worried about their disappearance, of course.

So they actually let their parents know where they were going?

Most probably.

That is considered doing something, my dear. Even if they didn’t inform their parents—that is still doing something. Because their very existence as a member of a loving family is doing something. Their presence being missed in the comfort and love of a family is “doing something.” From the day you are born you are always doing something. Even before you are born you are doing something. Your soul is energy which is forever “doing something.” The energy of the soul can only be felt and not seen because it is an energy that is at a different frequency as compared to energy that is produced by your physicality—which is your body. You are never “not doing something.” You are always doing something. This “doing something” that you are doing is forever because your soul is forever.

So are you telling me that the statement “have faith and just wait” is wrong?

Nothing is ever wrong or right, my dear. That statement is not possible.

So that statement is an impossibility? That it can never be done? That no one in this world can really do such an action?

Having faith in itself is an action. Faith is a thought. Faith is a feeling. Your thoughts and your feelings are the most powerful energy in your universe. Energy in itself is “doing something.”

So what you’re saying is…Oh man, I don’t know what you’re saying! Help!

You came into this world for only one thing—and that is to help each other. When those boys and that coach decided to go into that cave, their soul already planned to get stuck even before they were born. We’ve mentioned it before—it’s called their “agenda.” Their soul’s agenda is to one day get stuck in a cave in order for the world to know who they really are. And in turn, they are giving the people of the world a chance to be who they really are.

Hence, the international coverage and the international oneness to rescue them.

Yes. So are the boys and their coach out of that cave yet?

Not yet, I think. Soon, hopefully. We’re following the updates very closely. It seems they’re in good disposition, so that helps the situation a lot.

Mindset is everything.

I know, I know. Frustration slows everything down. Love all around is better.

Much, much better.