The Bling Heart

11 July 2018 Wednesday 10:23pm

“Losing a loved one has a way of putting everything in perspective… please explain that one to me.”

That was a tweet from someone I follow on Twitter. He recently lost his 19 year-old son who died in his sleep. Can you please help us understand the phrase “has a way of putting everything in perspective”? Which I believe people like to say to someone who has just had a devastating or traumatic experience happen in their life.

What does the word “perspective” mean?

I found two relevant meanings on Dictionary app: One—the state of one’s ideas, the facts known to one, etc., in having a meaningful interrelationship.” Sample sentence is: “You have to live here a few years to see local conditions in perspective.” And the second meaning is “the faculty of seeing all the relevant data in a meaningful relationship.” Sample sentence is: “Your data is admirably detailed but it lacks perspective.”

Why do you think these two definitions are relevant to our discussion?

Well, because they mention the word “relationship”. Isn’t our discussion about relationships?

Yes, it is. So now repeat that statement above and let’s see how the definitions relate to it.

Okay. “Losing a loved one has a way of putting everything in perspective.” So now, I guess I’m supposed to replace the word “perspective” with its meaning?

Go ahead. Let’s see if we can expand on it.

Here goes—Losing a loved one has a way of putting everything into showing the facts one knows about having a meaningful interrelationship. Hm, that actually makes sense.

How so?

Many of us actually know the basic principles of how to maintain a strong and loving relationship. But many of us are sometimes too busy with matters of this world that we sort of put our own relationships with ourselves and with our own family to the back burner. What I mean is—our own self-growth and family interrelationships are not at the top of our To-do list. Sometimes we learn this folly the hard way. We don’t realise we had it good until we lose it—as the saying goes. It is when we lose someone we love that we sometimes realise we could have done so, so much more in making that relationship into a loving and enriching one.

That last sentence is the explanation, my dear. But to expand even more on it—imagine the word “perspective” in that statement as a jigsaw puzzle in the shape of a heart. And that heart-shaped puzzle shows all the relationships you’ve had in a span of a lifetime. When you are born, your life is like the outline of a heart which is a jigsaw puzzle—no pieces in place yet except for that one piece which is yourself. Let’s place it right in the middle. You are now standing alone in the middle of a heart-shaped jigsaw puzzle with no piece in place. As an infant, you have no perspective yet of who you really are because you are not able to make deliberate conscious choices when it comes to relationships. You have subconscious choices, of course, like instinctively relating to your birth mother or father. You are still not aware of these choices. It is when you learn to make conscious choices that you begin to acquire the other pieces of that heart-shaped puzzle. You will be acquiring these pieces as you go along through life. So now, you have a couple of pieces which are from your mother and father. (There are now several deviations when it comes to what is a family—but let’s keep it to the basic to make for easier discussion.) You may have pieces that are from your siblings. There will be from your relatives, like your grandparents, uncles and aunties, if any. As you grow into adulthood, there will be pieces coming from your teachers, friends, co-workers, lovers, husbands and wives, children, etc, etc. Now, as you stand in the middle with all these pieces around you, you begin to see the “perspective”. You begin to see who you really are in relation to all these relationships—which we refer to here as pieces of a puzzle that is the shape of you. Because this world is actually nothing but relationships. There might be pieces that you would see as brilliant in colour and there will be those that are not so brilliant—dim, in fact, because these particular pieces of relationships do not shine that much for you. And then there will be pieces that may have cracks in them.

I know what those are—broken relationships.

Yes.

What about a relationship whereby a parent loses a child that he or she loves very much? A child who never reached his or her fullest potential? What kind of jigsaw piece would that look like?

If there was immense love, then it would be a brilliant one.

But the parent’s heart is broken upon the child’s death. It can’t really have a crack on it, now can it?

You tell me how that piece would look like. After all, you have a very rich imagination.

Me? I don’t think so. Anyway, if I lost a child (touch wood) who I never saw grow up, I imagine that tiny jigsaw piece to be brilliant but there’ll be a shape of a teardrop on it. You know, like the crying emoticon.

A very good visual.

Thank you. So let’s get back to that statement. “Losing a loved one has a way of putting everything in perspective.” I’m thinking—is this meant to judge the heartbroken? Or is it meant to uplift?

The meaning of everything is the meaning you give it, my child. Imagine that you have just lost your loved one and you are grieving. You are looking at your heart-shaped jigsaw puzzle of life with all its pieces that are shining brightly and some not so bright. You have in your hand that little piece which is the symbol of your relationship with your lost loved one. That brilliant piece with a teardrop on it. Do you see any other piece that looks like that in your heart-shaped puzzle?

Of course. There’s my Dad’s piece. And then there’s that piece that represents my marriage.

Ah, your marriage. Which led to a divorce. Will that piece be brilliant or dim? Because how brilliant or how dim each piece will be is entirely up to you. Did a relationship enrich your life? Did you partake of any life lessons from it? Did it make you sad? Or depressed? Did it devastate? Is the relationship still active? Has it died?

I guess it would be brilliant because I’ve learnt a lot from it. And since I can choose how I perceive a relationship, then I want all the pieces in my heart-shaped jigsaw puzzle to be brilliant. How awesome that would look like! A heart-shaped puzzle that is so bling!

Yes, that heart would definitely shine for all the world to see. That is how the heart of a true master looks like.

The Cave

5 July 2018 Thursday 7:37am

“You can have faith and just wait without doing anything. Um..No comment. You’re on your own on this one. Good luck!”

I tweeted that the other day. I’m thinking—that’s what those twelve boys and a coach did when they got stuck in that underground cave. But they got results anyway. They were found and are now waiting to leave that cave. So does that mean just having faith and just waiting works?

They’re waiting to leave? What are they waiting for?

The cave is still flooded. The rescuers are helping to drain the water but it’s a slow process. At the moment, the rescuers are helping the boys and the coach gain back their strength and confidence. So they can swim or dive out of the cave despite the flood. It seems the rescuers are thinking of two options: One—find another exit. Two—teach the group how to swim and dive out. But the experienced divers say that even for experienced and expert divers, the flooded cave is super dangerous. And these kids’ health and stamina are not exactly to the max at the moment. I understand the rescuers have brought in 2 weeks worth of supplies, just in case. Man, being stuck in a cave for one day will already freak me out! Poor guys. Luckily, they will also be provided with some communication cable soon, if they haven’t already. Communicating with their loved ones will definitely be a big boost for their morale. So to get back to my question—so this situation just proves that having faith and waiting works after all, yes?

Are they still waiting?

Well, technically yes.

Are they not doing anything?

No. They’re doing plenty! Especially on the rescuers’ side—which I believe has become an international affair.

So to answer your question—Yes, it may work. And no, it may not work.

I think you misunderstood my question. I’m talking about the time before they were rescued. They just waited in that cave for 9 days for someone to rescue them. They probably just had faith and prayed a lot and waited. And yet rescue showed up. Isn’t that doing nothing but have faith?

How did anyone know they were stuck in that cave?

That’s a silly question. Their families would have worried about their disappearance, of course.

So they actually let their parents know where they were going?

Most probably.

That is considered doing something, my dear. Even if they didn’t inform their parents—that is still doing something. Because their very existence as a member of a loving family is doing something. Their presence being missed in the comfort and love of a family is “doing something.” From the day you are born you are always doing something. Even before you are born you are doing something. Your soul is energy which is forever “doing something.” The energy of the soul can only be felt and not seen because it is an energy that is at a different frequency as compared to energy that is produced by your physicality—which is your body. You are never “not doing something.” You are always doing something. This “doing something” that you are doing is forever because your soul is forever.

So are you telling me that the statement “have faith and just wait” is wrong?

Nothing is ever wrong or right, my dear. That statement is not possible.

So that statement is an impossibility? That it can never be done? That no one in this world can really do such an action?

Having faith in itself is an action. Faith is a thought. Faith is a feeling. Your thoughts and your feelings are the most powerful energy in your universe. Energy in itself is “doing something.”

So what you’re saying is…Oh man, I don’t know what you’re saying! Help!

You came into this world for only one thing—and that is to help each other. When those boys and that coach decided to go into that cave, their soul already planned to get stuck even before they were born. We’ve mentioned it before—it’s called their “agenda.” Their soul’s agenda is to one day get stuck in a cave in order for the world to know who they really are. And in turn, they are giving the people of the world a chance to be who they really are.

Hence, the international coverage and the international oneness to rescue them.

Yes. So are the boys and their coach out of that cave yet?

Not yet, I think. Soon, hopefully. We’re following the updates very closely. It seems they’re in good disposition, so that helps the situation a lot.

Mindset is everything.

I know, I know. Frustration slows everything down. Love all around is better.

Much, much better.

How To Fertilise Your Garden

26 June 2018 Tuesday 7:19am

I weird thought just came to me while I was washing up at the sink this morning.

Don’t you always?

Yeah. Sometimes the most mundane tasks are the most epiphany-triggering. Why is that?

You are having epiphanies all the time, my dear. It is only when you believe that a thought is an epiphany that a thought becomes an epiphany. Otherwise, you’ll simply treat it as a random thought. The awareness that the voice in your head is God’s voice also influences the way you consider your thoughts. To some, God’s voice is of the highest value. They will ponder and try to understand the meaning of a certain thought that strikes them as revelations, or what you call “epiphany.” And sometimes, they would wish to share it with others. That is usually how your holy scriptures are created. “Holy scriptures” is a somewhat outdated term at this moment in time, don’t you think? Because many of you are now aware that everything and everyone is holy. Now, on the other hand, there are some who still believe that some of your thoughts are from the devil. Do you think you would give them value if you consider these thoughts as evil?

I don’t think so. In fact, I’ll not even consider such thoughts at all. But there’s no such thing as the devil. It’s a myth that humans created in order to…to…Um, why did we create the myth that is the devil?

We created the myth of the devil because a long, long time ago it was too unbelievable to believe that humans are God in human form. Another reason would be that God desires to know Godself—who is love. In order for God to know God as love, there must exist that which is not love. God wish to experience Itself. God wish to experience love. So we invented the illusion of fear, which humans humanised into what you now call the devil. Love is God, fear is the devil. It is in your world of the relative that God is now able to experience Godself because there is now the illusion that we created that which we call “evil.” It is in your world of the relative that God experience love. God experience love through humans—through all of you. But in order to experience love, you must also experience fear.

I understand. Question: You used the words “we created the myth” and “we invented the illusion of fear.” But then you also used the words “in your world.” Isn’t God in the world of the relative too?

Of course. You are all my spirit children. My spirit is in all of you. And you are ALL my children. That is how God exists in your world. We use the term “children” because your physical forms are mere babes at this moment in time. You have no idea yet of what your physical forms are capable of. Your physical form now is only a tiny seed in the spectrum of evolution in your little universe. Your mind will be blown away if you knew to what extent your physical form is capable of evolving into. If you will only take good care of yourself. And your earth, of course.

We’re trying, okay? We’re trying very hard. So the earth is actually only a tiny seed in a little universe? My God! What else is out there for us?

The truth, dear one. And at this moment in time, you are yet incapable of understanding the immensity of—

Stop. Just now, you called us mere children and our universe is “little.” And now you’re saying we are “incapable.” I am feeling really small right now.

I apologise. I am merely making you aware of your power to create anything. This world has so much potential in terms of—

Argh! Can we please change the subject?

Of course. So what was your epiphany all about?

Oh…Oh yeah. It’s about desire. I suddenly realised that desire may not be from within. I mean, it isn’t triggered inside out. It’s actually triggered outside in.

So what do you think triggered that thought?

It’s my tweet about desire being a fertiliser. Plants are still able to grow without us adding fertiliser or vitamins or whatever will boost its growth. Or is it a mistake to use the fertiliser allegory?

In order for an allegory to be better understood, it’s better to describe or use an illustration or an imaginary situation. What would you use?

How about an apple?

Alright. Go ahead.

There’s a table in an empty room. Wait…How about this—I am in the Nothingness Room. I’ve just had lunch. Then someone comes in and places a table in the Nothingness Room. And then that someone places a bright, red apple on that table. So now there’s this bright, red and juicy looking apple right in front of me. But I’m not really hungry because I just had lunch, remember? But that apple sure looks delicious. That sentence just spelled D-E-S-I-R-E. I feel desire for that delicious looking apple. When a while ago, I didn’t have such desire because that apple wasn’t there. My desire only got triggered upon seeing that delicious apple. That’s desire from outside in, isn’t it?

How do you know it’s delicious?

Huh? Does it matter? We’re talking about “desire” here—not taste.

It does matter. So how will you know if that apple is delicious?

By picking it up and taking a bite, that’s how. You’re weird.

What if it’s not delicious? What if it’s sour? Will you still have the desire to finish eating that whole awful-tasting-teeth-numbing-sour apple?

I suppose not. What’s your point?

I’ll explain in a while. So your desire suddenly turned to derision upon realising that what you thought was desirable is actually not so desirable after all?

Derision is too harsh. Let’s just say I got turned off. I can’t stand eating sour food. I think I’ve got more sweet areas in my tongue than sour. So anyway, what’s your point?

In a while. Let’s say, someone comes in again and places something else on that table in your Nothingness Room. It’s something you know will be delicious even if you don’t pick it up and take a bite.

Ooh, I know what that is—chocolate! M&M’s!

M&M’s it is. Note that you haven’t taken a bite of either one of the two—the delicious looking apple and the M&M’s. So where is your desire headed now?

That’s not fair. One is good for my health, the other is not.

We’re not talking about health—we’re talking about desire. You can be shown the most unhealthy food in the world and yet you can still have the unholiest of holiest desire for it. It is your other desire to have a healthy body that is the contender. I’ll put it this way—you just had a very healthy lunch. Now, you get to pick dessert.

Okay. That’s fair. And you already know my answer.

M&M’s it is.

Yum. So which is it: Is desire from inside out? Or is desire from outside in?

Which came first: The chicken or the egg?

Oh man…I don’t even know why I bother.

Let’s put it this way—And my point as well, is that—fertiliser (which you used as metaphor for “acting upon your desires”) is optional when it comes to maintaining a garden. On the other hand, a healthy and beautiful garden is regularly maintained and given lots of TLC and vitamins or fertiliser. Not unlike the way you maintain your body, mind and spirit. To love is to act. Otherwise, you are merely breathing in order to be alive.

Isn’t just being alive in this world good enough?

There’s being alive and then there’s just being alive and yet knowing you have a bigger purpose in this world.

Like I said—I don’t even know why I bother.

I know why. Because you have empathy.

No, I don’t.

Yes, you do.

No, I don’t.

Suit yourself.

Alright! Yes, I do.