The Flower Vase

21 May 2018 Monday 6:43am

“The word “abandonment” doesn’t belong in God’s dictionary.” What’s this about, God?

Please look up the meaning of the word “abandonment.”

Okay. “Abandonment” is the noun of the verb “abandon.” And it has a lot of meanings:

1) to leave completely and finally; forsake utterly; desert: to abandon one’s farm; to abandon a child; to abandon a sinking ship.

2) to give up; discontinue; withdraw from: to abandon a research project; to abandon hopes for a stage career.

3) to give up the control of: to abandon a city to an enemy army.

4) to yield (oneself) without restraint or moderation; give (oneself) over to natural impulses, usually without self-control: to abandon oneself to grief.

The first three sort of sound the same. But number four is more like..Um…More like..

More like freedom?

Yes! The sample sentence says “To abandon oneself to grief.” I can substitute the word “abandon” with the word “free” or “freedom.” It’ll be like – to be free to express one’s grief. Or to have the freedom to grieve.

Good job.

Thank you. Wait a sec. I don’t think I can substitute the word “free” or the word “freedom” for the word “abandonment” in my tweet – “The word “freedom” doesn’t belong in God’s dictionary.” That sounds weird.

It will not sound weird if you believe that God is everything and God is the nothing.

I don’t understand. It’ll be difficult for me to believe something which I don’t understand.

Let me explain. Take for example an empty clay pot or a flower vase.

Let’s take a flower vase. I like flowers.

Okay. There’s a flower vase in front of you. That flower vase is a perfect example of God being everything and God being the nothing. Let’s say it’s made of porcelain. When you touch it, you can feel the physical part of it. The physical of everything is God because God is everything. Now, put your hand into the mouth of that vase without touching the porcelain. What do you feel?

I feel air. I feel nothing.

Now, put your hand above and around the vase without touching the porcelain. What do you feel?

Still nothing. Just air.

The everything includes the nothing. And since God is everything, then God is also the nothing. In order for you to experience the porcelain of the vase, there must exist the nothingness around and inside the vase. The everything cannot exist without the nothingness. And the nothingness cannot exist without the physicality of everything. Now do you understand when I say, God is everything and God is the nothing?

Yeah, sort of. But what’s that got to do with my tweet – “The word “abandonment” doesn’t belong in God’s dictionary.”

I will never abandon my children, you know that. But do children abandon their parents?

Some do, yeah.

So since God is everything and God is you and everyone else, then God abandons and God does not abandon. Because God is everything.

I prefer the statement – God doesn’t abandon.

But most of you abandon your parents, yes?

Like I said, some do. Total abandonment for some reason or other. Then there’s part-abandonment when most of us have to leave the nest when we’re old enough or when we get married.

Why?

So we can be independent. And focus on our own family, spouses and children. But we still check on our parents and visit them as often as we can just to see how they are. I guess like what I’m doing here now. How are you doing, God?

I’m good, thank you. Nice of you to visit. What about your mother? How is she?

She’s very good. She’s right here next to me, having her breakfast.

Why haven’t you left the nest?

I did. But I got divorced and we had to sell our apartment. So Mum and Dad welcomed me and my children back home. Lucky me. I can’t say much for those mothers and their children who have nowhere to go.

That’s another long story of abandonment, my child. Let’s talk about that another time. When it comes to discussions of the oppression of women, it will take forever.

Oh no, you’re abandoning me!

Never.

I’m kidding!

I’m not.

Man & Woman

22 April 2018 Sunday 4:22pm

If peace can only be found within – which is another way of saying, “I’ve found out how to be happy with myself,” then how come some people pay crazy money to get advice and be trained to be able to be happy with themselves?

That is because many still believe that the only way to be happy is to have the perfect relationship. And that includes the relationship with themselves. Some unhappy people are always looking for solutions to their unhappiness. They believe that with the proper advice and with the proper guidance they will surely find the prefect relationship that will bring them true happiness for the rest of their lives. There is no such thing as true happiness. There is only true peace. And that peace can never be found outside of you. It is from within. When the soul has accepted this truth, that is when the soul will no longer need anything. Not even a relationship.

Then what are you talking about when you speak of the relationship of man and woman being the saving factor of this world from its own destruction? Isn’t that pertaining towards us working towards a perfect relationship? Which you have just mentioned that a soul at peace with itself does not need?

Do you have peace?

Yes, I have peace.

Do you need a relationship right now?

No, not really.

But it would be nice to be in one, yes?

Yes. It would be fun to have someone to hang around with.

But it is not compulsory for you?

Nope.

Even for the rest of your life?

Yup. Where is this going, God?

Just checking. Checking how you are.

So how am I?

You’re perfectly fine.

I am, aren’t I? With or without a relationship, I am perfectly fine.

But it would be fun?

Yes, most definitely. If you call a lot of hard work fun, then yes.

It’s all a matter of having the right mindset, my dear.

I know that. If I didn’t have the right mindset, do you think I’d have reached this far?

No, you wouldn’t have. But with you, my dear, anything is possible.

Thank you for that vote of confidence. But you still haven’t answered my question – Why is the relationship of a man and a woman the saving factor of this world from its own destruction?

This world is an illusion, you already know that. I created the illusion of dyads in order for myself to experience myself, you already know that too. And the greatest illusion of all is that of man and woman. At the moment you also know that the spiritual make of this dyad is, as you like to say, out of whack. The mistaken belief in the illusion that the male is superior to the female is the root of all your problems in this world. If you can’t fix that then there is nothing you can fix. All of you created that mistaken belief for a purpose. And that is for all of you to experience that it doesn’t work. We have now come at an era where the world is waking up to this truth. Most of you are now awake from the deep sleep of that mistaken belief. But here’s the problem – now that most of you know the problem, most of you also are still not very sure how to fix the problem.

So how do we fix the problem?

What we’re doing here is a good start. We are discussing the problem. And we are putting it out into the world for everyone to digest and maybe come up with their own discussions and suggestions about the problem.

God, you’re sort of going round and round. You still haven’t answered my question about the man-woman-relationship thing.

I can’t answer the question because you yourself do not know the answer, my dear. I am just your word processor, remember?

I forget, actually. Anyway, since this is as far as we’re gonna get on the subject I’ll stop here. I have to prepare dinner now. Thank you for always being around to discuss what’s messing around with my peace.

You’re very welcome. That’s what I am – peace.

The Jewellery Box

20 April 2018 Friday 8:05am

“Wanna know what I think is one of the causes of broken relationships these days? It’s because we’ve forgotten the art of compartmentalizing. Some of us are no longer able to discern the line between the tangible & the intangible. One is of the soul. The other is of this world”

That was my tweet yesterday. Can you please explain what compartmentalizing means?

Didn’t you just read something about that online?

I did. I even shared the URL as a tweet. But it’s still blurry. I know you can make it much simpler to understand.

Thank you for your faith in me.

You’re welcome. Um…Where did that suddenly come from?

It’s doesn’t matter. Okay, let’s talk about compartments.

No. Not compartments – compartmentalizing.

We’ll get to that. Meaning of “compartment”, please.

Coming right up. Okay. “Compartment” has a few meanings. I choose this one, “a part or space marked or partitioned off.”

Does anything come to mind? An object perhaps? That reminds you of the word “compartment”?

Yeah. My jewellery box. I’ve got this little box which is sectioned into little compartments. Each one keeps an earring or two.

Why do you compartmentalize your jewellery?

So they’re organised. It’s easy for me to choose which ones I want to wear. A girl can’t have enough earrings or ear accessories, you know. It just makes an outfit look complete.

Maybe you mean, it makes you feel more confident?

Yes, maybe that’s what I mean too. We’ve digressed again, God. We’re supposed to be talking about compartments. Or rather, compartmentilizing.

Maybe you mean, we jumped from one compartment into another?

Have we?

One minute we were talking about the meaning of compartment. The next we jumped to talking about your jewellery. What actually happened was that we took away the partition from between two subjects – one topic is about the meaning of a word. And the other topic is an example of the meaning of that word – which is your jewellery box. We created one compartment out of both topics.

So are we compartmentilizing?

No, what we did is the opposite of compartmentilizing. We integrated two topics into one.

Is that good or bad?

It depends on where you wish to go, my dear. And there’s no such thing as good or bad. There is only what works and what doesn’t work in terms of what you are trying to achieve. And what we are trying to achieve here is to explain a complex topic in simpler terms. Taking something from one compartment (let’s call this compartment “Tangibles ”) to explain a complex topic (let’s call this compartment “Intangibles”) is our method of explaining to the world all about a very, very, very complex topic called the soul.

In other words, we are always taking stuff from the box labelled TANGIBLES to explain whatever is in the box labelled INTANGIBLES.

You got it.

Why?

Why what?

Why do we need to use tangible stuff to explain about stuff about our intangible soul? Why can’t you just explain in words?

Words do not have much retention power. Here’s an example – let’s say, a few months from now you come across the word “compartmentilize” again. And you suddenly remember asking me about it in your diary. What words come to mind which you can use as key words in your search tool?

Jewellery box!

Precisely. Now do you understand?

Not really. I’m still blurry about how to compartmentilize.

When was the first time you came across the word?

From a movie, actually. “The Holiday” starring Jude Law, Cameron Diaz, Kate Winslet and Jack Black. I know, I know, I’m name-dropping. Sue me.

So what was it about? I mean, how was the word “compartmentalize” used in the movie?

Jude and Cameron’s characters flew sparks right from the very beginning. As the relationship went along, Cameron suspects Jude had other girlfriends – she felt he was hiding something. So when she made a surprise visit to his house, she found out he was a widower with two young daughters. She asked him why he didn’t tell her. If I recall correctly, he said he prefers to compartmentilize his life. His family life is one compartment, his love life is another. It makes his life less complicated. I can’t remember his exact words but I think it’s something like that. I have to watch the movie again. One of my fave movies actually. Jack Black’s “boob graze” scene was so funny! Uh-oh, we jumped to another compartment again.

Is it making the topic complicated?

No. Not really. I think as long as we remember to get back on the right track, there won’t be any problem.

Yes. That’s a very important point to remember. Always remember that.

I will. So to get back on the right track, when do “some of us are no longer able to discern the line between the tangible & the intangible” when it comes to compartmentilizing?

Your work is sometimes called your 9 to 5, is it not?

Yup. Most of us are at work from 9am in the morning to 5pm in the evening. But some do overtime. Instead of leaving work at 5pm we stay until late into the night, maybe even until midnight. But of course, those who do, get compensated for their overtime.

As in the tangible called money?

Yes.

Most of you have families. So when do you have time to spend with the family, giving and receiving love & joy – which are the intangible?

Oh, I know where this is going.

Where is it going?

It’s going to get back into the right track. It’s going to the statement that says, “some of us are no longer able to discern the line between the tangible & the intangible when it comes to compartmentilizing” because we’ve forgotten our priorities in life.

And what may that be?

To nourish and enrich the soul. To sum it all up – compartmentilizing is the art of knowing what matters the most. What matters the most is the nourishment and enrichment of the soul.

Bravo!

Thank you.