We Are All Pretenders

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9 August 2015 Sunday

…Even if it’s just pretend.

You mean pretend to forgive?

Why not? All of you are always pretending anyway. Every minute, every second, every breath you take, you are pretending. All of you are always living within rules and regulations. All of you are living within the protocol what some of you have called “polite society.” You are pretending even when what you are thinking of is quite different. All of you are suppressing your true feelings all the time.

But if we show our true feelings, like anger, it’ll only cause trouble.

Trouble occurs when the other person, let’s say John, takes to heart the anger of, let’s say Mary. Besides, why did Mary get angry in the first place? Probably because she took to heart what John said or did. And on and on it goes. The vicious circle never stops as long as someone does not stop taking to heart the transgression of the other.

That’s what I mean. So John and Mary are not pretending. They showed their true feelings by getting angry with each other. That’s where trouble starts and may become worse until they grow apart and eventually part ways. On the other hand, if they ignored their feelings, as in pretend it isn’t there or suppress their feelings, then the situation will be…Well, peaceful, isn’t it? So my question is – what’s wrong with pretending?

I did not say pretending is wrong. I Am merely observing what all of you are creating. You have created a world where everyone is pretending instead of showing their true feelings.

But it will cause trouble!

It will only cause trouble when there is the intent to hurt. All of you get angry for the purpose of revenge. To revenge the transgression that you assume has been done unto you. There is no such thing as transgressions if you believe that the purpose of such a violation is for you to be able to envision the greatest and grandest version you imagine yourself to be. And that is to be God. God does not get angry. God does not seek revenge. If Mary chose the highest choice of not getting angry and not seeking revenge by getting angry, then the situation would not have gone to the next level (which, by the way, is a lower level when it concerns your evolution as a human race) of causing more of a rift in the relationship. The situation would have remained neutral. John also has a choice, seeking revenge by getting angry or choosing not to be angry. But if he chooses the highest choice of being God, no anger and no revenge, then he and Mary would have a chance to work out the rift peacefully. And this is not pretending. The soul never pretends. The soul is the truth. When a relationship is soul-based, the truth will always win over any rift in a relationship. I will not say there will never be any rifts because there will always be rifts. That is fear at work in order for you to know the opposite of fear, which is joy. One cannot exist without the other.

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…I will never, ever get irritated with you, God. You know that. I love you.

I know, child. I love you too. But when you get irritated, or frustrated, or angry with yourself, you are doing the same to Me. You are doing the same to God. And if you are doing the same with another, then you are doing the same to God. I Am you, you are Me. As I Am another. All of you are God.

I know. I’m sorry when I get angry or frustrated or fed up with myself. Or another.

You do not have to apologize to Me, child. Since I cannot be hurt or damaged in any way, then there is nothing you will ever be sorry for. Love is never having to say you’re sorry.

Yeah. You’re so wonderful that way!

Ugliness & Beauty

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22 September 2017 Friday

9:56am

Ugliness is the only guardian angel a woman has.
~ Yiddish Proverb

How can ugliness be guarding a woman? That is so weird.

What is ugliness to you?

My feet. Nowadays, I find my feet really ugly. They’re looking really old. They’re wrinkled, full of veins and discoloured. And sometimes even painful.

Alright. Even though you think your feet are ugly, do they still serve their purpose?

Yes, of course.

Do they guard you against being a handicap and not able to walk?

Like I said, yes.

Then that is exactly what that proverb means. Your feet, which you find ugly, are your guardian angels, which are guarding you from not being able to walk.

I guess so. But men have feet too, you know.

Yes, they do. But do they find their feet ugly as much as women do?

No, I don’t think so. Most beauty products are targeted at women. There’s one product that you apply and keep on for a few hours, and then wait for a couple of days—the skin will start drying up and you can peel off the outer layer, revealing the layer below which looks as soft as baby’s skin. I’m thinking of ordering.

What’s stopping you?

Fear. Fear that it’s all just hype. I’m thinking, killing off the upper layer of your skin is really drastic. My feet may even have a bad reaction to it. You know, like an allergic reaction.

But you won’t know that until you try.

True. There are a lot of things I want to change in the way I look. Not just my feet. But they aren’t my priorities right now.

What are your priorities, dear one?

This. This is my priority. These words. This conversation with you and what I’m putting out there into the world.

Why is that your priority? Why is putting out these words into the world your priority?

It’s my purpose. I’m a messenger for The New World. It’s my job.

A non-paying job.

I get paid plenty! I have peace in my soul. That’s more than I can ask for.

Glad to hear it.

Anyway. So why is ugliness the only guardian angel a woman has?…Wait…I think I got it.

What have you got?

The explanation—Women’s beauty, including inner beauty which is love, can only exist when ugliness exists. Without ugliness, also known as fear, how will we see the beauty of women in this world? What I can’t explain is, why only women? Don’t men have beauty too? Don’t men have love too that must be guarded?

Of course, my dear. But with the state of the world right now, is men’s beauty showing up?

Most of the time, no. That’s why we still have wars.

 

How Did We Ever Survive Without Mobile Phones?

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19 July 2017 Wednesday 4:46pm

Rene’s mobile phone crashed. So today he’s uncontactable. And yet I’m not worried as compared to when he has a phone and he’s contactable, but doesn’t reply. That’s so weird.

It’s because you know that there is no way for you to contact him. That certainty gives you peace of mind that there is nothing you can do about the situation. You have accepted the situation as it is: He is uncontactable. While when your son was contactable and doesn’t reply, it’s worrisome. Any parent would be worried when he or she has provided a way of connecting with a child, especially during an emergency, and yet there’s no response. The parent’s mind will start to imagine the worst scenarios out of fear.

But the only difference between those two situations is that there is (or lack of) a mobile phone. So which is better?

Which do you think?

I asked You first!

I Am you, you are Me.

Fine. I believe not having a mobile phone is better.

That’s a surprise.

Yeah. I’m surprised too. Maybe it’s because someone mentioned to me about how in the world did we ever survive without mobile phones before. The answer that came to me was that we did. We did survive without mobile phones at one time. Even if there was an emergency. The only difference is that we can get things done faster now. And the world is a lot smaller. We are more connected. But believe me when I say, there are still people out there in the modern world or first world countries, who prefer not to have mobile phones. For whatever reason. They rely on what’s available when absolutely necessary. And they’re surviving. I suppose if I tried it I would survive too.

How about your kids? Do you think they’ll survive?

Of course, they will. But why dwell on it when it will never happen? To most youths nowadays, phoneless is like being armless. But if there ever was a mobile phone holocaust or something, I believe we will adapt. Humanity is a survivor. Oh man. Why have we suddenly involved the whole world into this?

The world is your mission, remember?

Yeah. I forget sometimes.

And you forget that when you broadcast your reality to the world like this post, it is to help others. Messengers are teachers who experience what they are teaching. So what lesson do you think this situation is bringing to others?

Like what You just said, I have accepted the situation as it presents itself. If there’s nothing I can do about a situation, then I accept it. It may be I who need to change how I feel about the situation. Rene has no phone today so he’s uncontactable. And that’s that. Oh man…Suddenly, I’m worried.

Worry is like a rocking chair.

Yeah, I know.

Haven’t you learnt by now that everything that happens has a purpose? And what matters is how you deal with what’s happening or what has happened. It’s good to find out why it happened. But try not to let the why’s (especially if you will never know what they are) hinder you from dealing with the problem. If there is one. If there isn’t a problem then accept it as a learning tool and move on.

Now, I’m getting really worried.

Worried about what hasn’t happened? You’re worried about what doesn’t exist? Is worry worth the time and energy about something that doesn’t even exist?

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10:40pm

If worry stops me from getting anything done, then no. It’s not worth it. Coz that’s what happens when I worry.

Worry can also be useful. So what did you do when you were worrying about your son just now?

I texted his teacher to ask her what time he left school. Because he wasn’t home yet at the usual time. The teacher replied that he left the school quite late. And I heard on the radio there was heavy traffic on the highway. And with that, at least I had an idea of his ETA.

So he came home after all.

Yeah. All’s well and all that. So You were saying about how worry is useful?

A little worry makes you cautious. Which is good in certain situations. But worry can be set aside or even be put to rest when the right information is on hand.

Yeah. But what if–

Don’t.

Don’t what? I’m just asking. What if something really happens like if–

Don’t. What-if’s are the same as worry. You are asking about what doesn’t exist.

But isn’t it too careless for a parent to not think of scenarios when their child may need help during emergencies? I won’t be a good parent if I simply don’t care about my child’s well-being, isn’t it?

All parents care about their children’s well-being. And each parent will try their best to be the best parent. Because of your numerous beliefs, traditions and cultures, there are also numerous methods and styles of parenting. At the moment, there are no specific textbooks or guidebooks carved in stone on how to be a parent in your world.

Is there in Yours? Haha. Kidding.

Yes.

I was kidding. Are You serious? You have guidebooks on how to be a parent in the realm of the absolute?

I’m not kidding. And yes, I Am serious. You are talking with The Ultimate Parent of all, are you not?

Oh well then, pardon me.

This world will have the most loving and understanding, patient and comforting, joyful parents if they are guided by their soul. Your soul is God. God is The Ultimate Parenting Guide.

So let’s do it. It isn’t too late for my kids to be guided as per The Ultimate Parenting Guidebook, is it? 

No, it’s not. But what about those who are about to start new families or have newborns?

Don’t look at me.

And let’s leave it at that. For now, anyway. So let’s get back to your son’s phoneless-ness.

Haha. That’s funny. I bought him a new phone before he came home. Well sort of. I got him a second-hand one.

Why?

Coz he might lose it.

Did he lose his old one?

No. But that one is really old. That’s probably why it crashed.

You mean it’s so old nobody would want to steal it.

Um…

Do you know that it’s also judgment when you assume others will do “bad” things which they have not done.

Sorry. It’s just that if I buy him a new one, and he loses it, it will be such a heartbreaker!

Pocket breaker, you mean.

Yes, that too.

Tell Me, how many things have you bought that are expensive and are now just gathering dust somewhere?

Argh! I knew You were gonna bring that up!

My point is, there is no such thing as a happenstance. Even losing things. Or your possessions getting stolen. They are situations your soul planned to happen. You and your soul are always trying to prove something to yourself. Who are you in these situations? Who do you want to be? Who do you not want to be when faced with such situations? The anger, the resentment, the angst, the vengeance stem from the feeling of being victimised. You are never a victim of circumstance. Because that circumstance is your creation. You chose to be in such a place, at such a time, in such a situation. You do that all the time. Unless you have never ventured outside of some dungeon somewhere. But then being in a dungeon somewhere is also your creation. You put yourself in that dungeon for a purpose. And that is to experience what being in a dungeon feels like. It is the same with having your possessions stolen. Your soul wish to experience what losing something feels like.

I understand all that. So fine. Okay. Let’s say I am now experiencing what it feels like to get my expensive mobile phone stolen. I feel the loss maybe for a couple of days…Um, wait a sec–Actually, I have experienced having my phone stolen before. And I realised at that time that as soon as it disappeared that I’ve actually been wanting a new phone all along before it got stolen.

Your thoughts are powerful enough to attract situations that will create your reality in order for you to experience that particular thought.

So I guess Rene wanted a new phone all along. That’s why it crashed.

What kind of phone was it anyway?

Um…An iPhone 4.

Poor boy.

His new phone is an iPhone 6, okay!

A second-hand one.

Argh!