7 August 2019 Wednesday 11:41am
“The experience of happiness has nothing to do with a given event. There is no connection between exterior events & interior experiences.”
That’s Neale’s tweet. Someone made a comment that it’s a false statement especially with regards to the recent shootings in the US. I tend to agree with the comment. When something sad happens, it definitely connects to the sadness that I feel within, doesn’t it?
So you’re actually sad right now?
Me? No, not really. Why should I be sad?
You just said something about the recent shootings in the US and that since it’s a sad event then everyone who knows about it would also be very sad.
No, I’m referring to the friends, relatives and those in the know of those who died in the shooting. Not me specifically.
So since you’re not sad about the sad event of the shooting, then Neale’s tweet is true—There is no connection between exterior events & interior experiences.
I guess it’s true for some and not true for others.
So Neale’s statement is sometimes true and sometimes false.
Yeah, you could say that.
So that means that statement is a lie and a truth at the same time?
Huh? Is there such a thing?
You tell me, dear one.
Well, there’s love and fear. Love is The Ultimate Truth. While fear is an illusion. Love is the truth while fear is a lie. But love and fear are two separate things. One is the truth and one is a lie. We’re talking about one thing that is a truth and a lie at the same time.
Love. Love is a lie and a truth.
No. Love is always true.
God is everything. God is love. Therefore, love is everything. Is fear a part of everything?
Yes. But fear is an illusion. It’s not real.
Everything is made up of what is real and what is not real—which are the illusions. The truth and the lies are existing at the same time. The trick is to know which is which. So with Neale’s statement, when it says that there is no connection between exterior events and interior experiences, he means that what is happening is happening. What you feel about what is happening is within your control. But what is happening outside of you, most often than not, is not within your control. Death, for example, has been regarded as a sad event in your world. But there are also those who celebrate death instead of bemoaning it. You always have a choice about how you feel about what is happening outside of you. Let’s imagine a mother and her 2 year-old toddler watching the news on tv about the shooting that you mentioned. The mother would probably shed a tear or two as she empathises with the survivors of the tragedy. Now, what about the toddler? Do you think the child would feel the same way as the mother?
I don’t think so. The 2 year-old would not yet know what’s going on.
That is because the child has not been taught what death is really about. Let’s say, the mother teaches the child that death is a form of celebration instead of a tragedy. Or maybe even teach the child that death is not at all important and when someone dies it’s just a matter of disposing the body. The importance is bestowed upon the concept that the soul has transitioned into another realm or another lifetime. The mother can even teach the child that death is merely a way of sleeping forever. My point is, the meaning of everything is the meaning of you give it. The meaning of everything is what you are teaching to your children. What’s important are the questions: Does that particular meaning work? Is that particular meaning productive? Does the meaning evoke other meanings? Or other opinions? Does the meaning have the ability to progress and alter as time goes along? All of you are at liberty to choose any meaning to everything that happens in your reality. Grieving, upon the death of a beloved, is a natural process of expressing one’s love for what has given joy and love during its existence. But nothing lasts forever, and that includes the feeling of grief. The pain comes when you cannot let go of something that has done its job and has begun its journey towards becoming a part of history. Letting it go and moving forward towards the future is one way of relieving that pain.
Wait. You just said it. The pain comes when you cannot let go of something. Isn’t that contradicting Neale’s tweet? That there is no connection between exterior events & interior experiences? When you say pain comes when you cannot let go of something, then there is definitely a connection between that something—which is an exterior event, and the pain—which is an interior experience.
It depends on what you are referring to. If you cannot let go of a belief—which is an interior experience, then there will be pain—which is also an interior experience.
Then you should have said we were talking about beliefs in the first place.
Aren’t we always?
Are we? I thought we were talking about the disconnect of an exterior event and interior experience. Where does belief come into that?
Let me explain with an example. There are those who love to experience horror houses during your Halloween holidays, aren’t there?
Yup. Excluding moi. Never been in one and never will. Ever.
Some people love being scared.
Not me. But those people are not really scared. They know that the stuff in there aren’t real. It’s more of the shock factor that attracts them. I hate being shocked. And scared.
But you know that the props aren’t real.
Of course. I just don’t like being scared. So anyway, where does belief come into going into a horror house?
When you see the sign “Horror House” what’s the first thing that pops into your mind?
That it’s scary.
Correct. Now, let’s say an alien from another planet visiting your world sees the sign “Horror House” for the first time. It has no idea what it’s really about. It goes in. Do you think it will get scared or shocked?
I have no idea.
Make a guess.
It probably won’t get scared or shocked.
Because it has no idea that a horror house is meant to shock or scare.
An idea is a belief. That alien may not have an idea what fear is all about. It may not get scared or shocked in that horror house because it does not believe in fear. That’s where belief comes into Neale’s tweet: There is no connection between exterior events & interior experiences. The exterior event is the horror house which is believed to be scary. That belief can be changed into another belief—that it’s all fake. The choice of being fearful or lack of fear is the interior experience. It all depends on the belief. Do you see the disconnect between belief (which is an interior experience) and what is happening as an exterior event?
Yes, I do. So can I safely say that the belief that there is a connection between exterior event and interior experience is based on fear? While Neale’s tweet that “there is no connection between exterior events & interior experiences” is based on love?
Yes, you can safely say that. It all boils down to choice. You have the power to choose your interior experience in connection to what is happening outside of you. Love or fear. Courage or fear. You always have a choice.