Still About Mistakes

Mistakes

4 November 2017 Saturday

10:28am

My tweet: Once we see ALL relationships (including male/female) as divine is when we free ourselves from hidden agendas in relationships.

The phrase “including male/female” got me scratching my head. Most of us already see male/female relationships as divine. That’s why we have church weddings and wedding ceremonies which we consider sacred or divine. My question is – why didn’t I use the phrase “including same gender relationships” instead? Because those are relationships that are still not wholly acceptable by our different beliefs. Because some of us still do not consider them to be divine or sacred.

Do it.

Huh? Do what?

Use that alternative phrase in your statement and see how it feels.

Okay. “Once we see ALL relationships, including same gender relationships, as divine is when we free ourselves from hidden agendas in relationships.”

So how does that feel?

So, so much better! OMG! I made a mistake, didn’t I?

Yes, you did.

Oh no!

Why are you so disturbed, my child? You’ve made mistakes before, haven’t you?

Yes, of course. I’m only human. But these words are for those who are seeking the truth about life and how to live life. I hope so anyway. As a messenger, I cannot be broadcasting mistakes to everyone! They might believe they are not mistakes. And they might apply it to how they will live their lives and make the same mistakes!

What are we doing now?

We’re having a conversation.

About what?

About mistakes.

Exactly.

Okay, okay. I get it. My mistakes are lessons for others so they will know how to deal with their own mistakes. Because all of us make mistakes. Even messengers.

My child, the more mistakes messengers make the better.

Unfortunately, that is true.

I’m glad you agree. How did that tweet come about anyway?

It’s an observation of another tweet. It’s the one about these young men in Japan who work as Boyfriends-For-Hire, as they call themselves. It was a feature about Tokyo on Channel News Asia. They are hired by women who simply want someone to talk to and maybe even get hugs and cuddles for maybe a couple of hours. And strictly nothing sexual involved. The “boyfriend” even gave a little demonstration with the interviewer of how the session would go. As I watched, I thought, How sweet. How sweet of these young men to do such things. When he was asked why he became a Boyfriend-For-Hire, his reason was that he wanted to help women while also needing a job. But I understand their fees are not cheap.

Have you ever had a relationship with a man simply for friendship?

Yeah, actually. It was when I was still working. Colleagues thought we were an item but we were strictly just friends because we were in the same department. We simply got along quite well. We’ve lost touch, though.

So your mistaken statement is still partly correct, dear one.

How so?

You just said – your colleagues thought you and your male friend were an item even though you were strictly friends.

Yes?

Well, then. That is also a sort of judgment, is it not? To believe that a man and a woman are having a relationship other than friendship is also judgment. Sometimes, judgment turns into gossip, especially when it is spread around. Then gossip, more often than not, turn into lies. And as you know, lies always create trouble.

But people can’t help it! We’ve been brought up into thinking that as long as a man and a woman are often seen together, they have a “thing” going. Or they’ll end up having a “thing” together. So I guess we’re back to where we started, huh? We’re back to a thing called “mistakes.”

Making assumptions about a relationship without proof is judgment. Judgment that is broadcast turns into gossip. Gossip turn into lies. Lies turn into mistakes. Yes, I suppose you can say we’re back to a thing called “mistakes.”

Yup, we’re back to where we started. So now, where are we going?

Nowhere, my dear. As long as mistakes are not amended, we are going nowhere.