The Old Lady & The Taxi

30 May 2018 Wednesday 10:24am

We’re lunching out and watching a movie today. But I’m still chef for tonight’s dinner.

As I was hurrying to the grocery, an old lady stopped me at the taxi stand. She was sitting on the bench.

She said, “Can you please flag a taxi for me? My legs are painful. I can’t walk.” I was thinking, Then how’d you get here?

Anyway, I looked around, there wasn’t a taxi in sight, “Don’t worry, Auntie. One will come in soon. Just wait.”

She replied, “Don’t have. Can you go over there and flag one for me?” She was pointing to the turn at the road junction.

What?! I thought, I’m in a hurry! And when it’s raining, available taxis are scarce! “Don’t worry, Auntie. One will come soon. Just wait,” I said.

She said, “Can you wait with me? Don’t worry, the grocery closes at 10pm.”

What?! She actually expects me to wait with her for as long at it takes?! I said, “I know, Auntie. But I’m in a hurry. I’m going out and I need to buy stuff for dinner. Just wait, a taxi will come. How about I buy my stuff first and then come back and wait with you? Can?” Liar. I’m hoping she’ll be gone when I pass by on the way back. She agreed.

As I was paying for my stuff, I thought of taking a detour to avoid her. But soul said, Is that who you really are, Joy? If she’s still there, you can book a taxi for her. And you can even push the bar higher by paying the fare in advance. Consider it your good deed for the day—heck, the whole year.

My shopping done, I walked back to the taxi stand. She was still there. But this time, there were a couple of ladies with her. They were probably waiting for taxis too.

I walked up to her and asked, “So how, Auntie?” She said, “Never mind. I’ll just wait.”

I said, “Okay. One will come soon, don’t worry.” Besides, I thought, you’re not alone anymore. I said “Bye!” and headed for home.

What does it all mean? I have no idea. Maybe it’ll come to me later. In the meantime, you decide.

7:56pm

I got it. I know what it means:

“There’s being kind, and then there’s being a push-over. Know the difference.”

What did you get?

A Fond Farewell

30 May 2018 Wednesday 6:49am

“Goodbye doesn’t mean forever.”

It sounds contradictory.

In what sense?

I’m not sure. It just does. Maybe I should look up the meaning of “contradictory.”

Go ahead.

Okay. “Contradictory” means “a proposition so related to a second that it is impossible for both to be true or both to be false.” So, does that apply to that phrase?

I don’t know. You tell me. You’re the one who finds it contradictory. Try to take it apart first.

Okay. “Goodbye” means “farewell (a conventional expression used at parting).” That’s it. That doesn’t really explain much.

How about the word “farewell”?

“Farewell” has more. It means:

1. goodby; may you fare well: Farewell, and may we meet again in happier times.

2. an expression of good wishes at parting: They made their farewells and left.

3. leave-taking; departure: a fond farewell.

4. a party given to a person who is about to embark on a long journey, retire, leave an organization, etc.

Choose one.

I choose #3—“leave-taking; departure: a fond farewell.”

Alright. Replace the word “goodbye” in that phrase with the words “a fond farewell.”

Okay. A fond farewell doesn’t mean forever.

Does that still sound contradictory to you?

Nope. It sounds so much better. It sounds of love all around.

Love never says goodbye, my child.

Yup, love only says a fond farewell.

The Flower Vase

21 May 2018 Monday 6:43am

“The word “abandonment” doesn’t belong in God’s dictionary.” What’s this about, God?

Please look up the meaning of the word “abandonment.”

Okay. “Abandonment” is the noun of the verb “abandon.” And it has a lot of meanings:

1) to leave completely and finally; forsake utterly; desert: to abandon one’s farm; to abandon a child; to abandon a sinking ship.

2) to give up; discontinue; withdraw from: to abandon a research project; to abandon hopes for a stage career.

3) to give up the control of: to abandon a city to an enemy army.

4) to yield (oneself) without restraint or moderation; give (oneself) over to natural impulses, usually without self-control: to abandon oneself to grief.

The first three sort of sound the same. But number four is more like..Um…More like..

More like freedom?

Yes! The sample sentence says “To abandon oneself to grief.” I can substitute the word “abandon” with the word “free” or “freedom.” It’ll be like – to be free to express one’s grief. Or to have the freedom to grieve.

Good job.

Thank you. Wait a sec. I don’t think I can substitute the word “free” or the word “freedom” for the word “abandonment” in my tweet – “The word “freedom” doesn’t belong in God’s dictionary.” That sounds weird.

It will not sound weird if you believe that God is everything and God is the nothing.

I don’t understand. It’ll be difficult for me to believe something which I don’t understand.

Let me explain. Take for example an empty clay pot or a flower vase.

Let’s take a flower vase. I like flowers.

Okay. There’s a flower vase in front of you. That flower vase is a perfect example of God being everything and God being the nothing. Let’s say it’s made of porcelain. When you touch it, you can feel the physical part of it. The physical of everything is God because God is everything. Now, put your hand into the mouth of that vase without touching the porcelain. What do you feel?

I feel air. I feel nothing.

Now, put your hand above and around the vase without touching the porcelain. What do you feel?

Still nothing. Just air.

The everything includes the nothing. And since God is everything, then God is also the nothing. In order for you to experience the porcelain of the vase, there must exist the nothingness around and inside the vase. The everything cannot exist without the nothingness. And the nothingness cannot exist without the physicality of everything. Now do you understand when I say, God is everything and God is the nothing?

Yeah, sort of. But what’s that got to do with my tweet – “The word “abandonment” doesn’t belong in God’s dictionary.”

I will never abandon my children, you know that. But do children abandon their parents?

Some do, yeah.

So since God is everything and God is you and everyone else, then God abandons and God does not abandon. Because God is everything.

I prefer the statement – God doesn’t abandon.

But most of you abandon your parents, yes?

Like I said, some do. Total abandonment for some reason or other. Then there’s part-abandonment when most of us have to leave the nest when we’re old enough or when we get married.

Why?

So we can be independent. And focus on our own family, spouses and children. But we still check on our parents and visit them as often as we can just to see how they are. I guess like what I’m doing here now. How are you doing, God?

I’m good, thank you. Nice of you to visit. What about your mother? How is she?

She’s very good. She’s right here next to me, having her breakfast.

Why haven’t you left the nest?

I did. But I got divorced and we had to sell our apartment. So Mum and Dad welcomed me and my children back home. Lucky me. I can’t say much for those mothers and their children who have nowhere to go.

That’s another long story of abandonment, my child. Let’s talk about that another time. When it comes to discussions of the oppression of women, it will take forever.

Oh no, you’re abandoning me!

Never.

I’m kidding!

I’m not.