About Being A Coward

23 June 2019 Sunday 6:42pm

Just now, walking past a sitting area under the block of flats in my neighbourhood, I happen to glance at a couple of elderly men in wheelchairs and their caregivers. They were probably there just to relax and watch people walking by. But the women did not look like they were relaxing at all. One of them was sitting on the stone bench. She was using a sarong to cover her front because her Tshirt was pulled up at the back. The other woman was standing behind her. She looked like she was inspecting her friend’s back. I noticed reddish welts. And they certainly didn’t look like they were bug bites. It looked like she leaned back against a fence with diagonal metal bars. I only glanced for a couple of seconds but I knew at once they were burn marks. I walked on, pretending not to have noticed. I don’t think they saw me. By then the blood began to pound in my head and my heart beat a little faster. I thought, Shouldn’t I turn back and help her to report the abuse to the authorities or something? But still I walked on. I felt like crying and I felt angry at the same time. Why didn’t I turn back, G?

You tell me, dear one.

I didn’t turn back because…because…I’m a coward!

What is a coward, my dear?

A coward is “a person who lacks courage in facing danger, difficulty, opposition, pain, etc. A timid or easily intimidated person.”

So are you a person who lacks courage in facing danger, difficulty, opposition, pain, etc.? Are you a timid or an easily intimidated person? Be honest with yourself.

No. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be doing this.

Doing what, dear?

Helping women to not be oppressed anymore.

There’s your answer.

But I didn’t turn back! That’s not helping women!

Abuse is rooted in a belief. We are all about helping women change the belief that they deserve less respect than men. And we are also helping men change this belief. A belief is of the soul and mind. You didn’t turn back because your soul knows true change is from the soul. You are already helping that woman by bringing awareness to her particular situation. Because her situation is not uncommon. Will you be posting this online?

Yes, I suppose.

There you go. In order to help one woman, you have to help bring awareness to the problems most women are experiencing.

But what about that abused woman? Who will help her not be abused anymore?

Only she can help herself. And revealing her predicament to another is already one way of doing that. Let us hope they will help each other do the right thing. And you seeing evidence of her abuse is not a happenstance. Everything that happens in your life is never a happenstance. Everything that shows up in your life has a purpose. Your experiences are tools to help you evolve to the grandest and highest version of your spiritual self.

Not helping that woman is certainly not the grandest and highest version of my spiritual self. I’m still feeling guilty that I didn’t turn back to help.

You still can, you know.

I can still what?

Turn back.

I don’t think so. She might not be there anymore.

What if you see her again? Will you ask her about her predicament?

I really don’t know the answer to that. There are so many things to consider.

Like what, my dear?

Like would she be embarrassed if a total stranger confronted her about her back? Maybe they aren’t even burn marks. Then I’ll be the one embarrassed. Or her employer might find out that someone else knows about her predicament and then she might be abused even more.

You do know, my child, that those are just guesswork. Also known as excuses. They are mere speculations. Which means they do not exist.

Also known as fears.

Yes.

Then I am a coward after all.

You may say whatever you say you are, dear one. But what you are doing or not doing is not as important as what you are being. What do you think you are being?

I’m being a coward.

Tell me what is a coward again, please.

A coward is “a person who lacks courage in facing danger, difficulty, opposition, pain, etc. A timid or easily intimidated person.”

Is a coward being fearful or being courageous?

A coward is being fearful.

Are you in fear right now?

Not now, no. But I was when I passed by that abused woman!

Are you very sure she was abused?

No, I’m not one hundred percent sure. Where is this going?

This is going nowhere until you are one hundred percent sure that she was abused.

But the only way to be one hundred percent sure is to walk up to her and ask her to her face!

Then do it.

I don’t want to!

Why not?

Because I’m a coward!

I give up.

God is giving up. That’s laughable.

Thought vs Feeling

5 April 2019 Friday 8:26am

Thoughts are not feelings, they are ideas of how you “should” feel. When thoughts and feelings get confused, truth becomes clouded, lost.~ Neale Donald Walsch

So what’s the difference between thought and feeling?

When you’re hungry, what do you feel?

Hunger.

When you’re hungry, what are you thinking?

I’m thinking I need to eat.

That’s the difference.

Huh? I don’t understand.

Hunger is a feeling. The word ‘hunger’ is the name you gave to a sensation in your body wanting food. That sensation is the feeling.

But isn’t ‘feeling hungry’ also a thought?

Yes. A thought is the meaning you give to a feeling. A thought is also what you do about the feeling. Imagine a world with no words. If there weren’t any words to describe ‘hunger’ what will happen?

I guess no one will know that I’m feeling hungry.

No, child. You can communicate with your body even without words. If you suddenly look pale and weak, wouldn’t someone deduce that you’re probably feeling hungry?

I suppose so. Um, I still can’t see the difference.

Read Neale’s quote again—the first sentence.

Okay. “Thoughts are not feelings, they are ideas of how you “should” feel.”

Try to use the concept of hunger in that sentence.

I’ll try. Okay…The thought that I need to eat is not a feeling. It is an idea of what I should do about the feeling of hunger.

Now, read the next sentence.

Okay. “When thoughts and feelings get confused, truth becomes clouded, lost.” This one sounds complicated.

Only if you believe it is so. Now do the same.

Use it with the concept of hunger?

Yes.

Oh man. Here goes..The THOUGHT that I need to eat just because I’m FEELING hungry is confusing, my truth becomes clouded and lost. That doesn’t make any sense. When anyone is feeling hungry he will definitely put into action the thought of eating. That’s the way it works. What’s confusing about that?

Have you heard of the expression, “I skipped lunch”? Or “I skipped breakfast”? Or “I’m on a diet”? Or…

Okay, I get it. Just because someone is feeling hungry that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s going to eat. So if someone is feeling hungry and yet doesn’t eat, what does that show us about confusing thought with feeling? And the truth gets clouded and lost if you do?

When you in particular get hungry, what do you do?

I have to eat something. Even if it’s just some crackers or biscuits. I always try to have some with me, especially when I’m travelling. Because if I don’t, I’ll feel nauseous and dizzy. It’s a very yucky feeling. I tried fasting before—hated it. Fasting isn’t for me. I prefer to eat smaller meals if I really have to fast. Anyway, I’m still confused. Thought and feeling—what’s the difference?

Maybe hunger isn’t the appropriate concept to use to explain it. How about something else?

Like?

Like love, for instance.

Nah. Let’s stick with hunger.

We Are Reflections of Ourselves

12 February 2019 Tuesday 7:52pm

We are reflections of ourselves. What’s happening in the spirit world is happening in our real world.

I just read this from one of my entries in my diary from 2 years ago. It got me thinking, I thought all along the spirit world is where you are—where God is. The spirit world is the realm of the absolute. So that statement can’t be true. Because, as far as I know, absolute is pure love. Fear does not exist in the spirit world. So how can it be that what is happening in the real world—which has the illusion of fear, is also happening in the spirit world—which is pure love?

You just said the key words, my child—“as far as you know.” How much do you know of the realm of the absolute?

That the realm of the absolute is pure joy. That’s it. That’s all I know.

Exactly. The realm of the absolute can never be explained to you while you are in this world. But let me say this, you are an entity made up of body, mind and spirit. And not one of the three is able to function by itself as long as your entity is in this realm. In order to fulfil your full potential in this world, you have to use body, mind and spirit in sync. When we say the spirit world is the reflection of your reality, it means the outcomes of what your body, mind and spirit have created will affect your particular part of the universe as a whole. It is the law of cause and effect. Evidence of this is the way your world is now—it is not entirely at peace with itself. This is the result of the outcomes of your creations based on beliefs of The Old World. The beliefs of The Old World are mostly controlled by fear.

So that’s why the world is now in fear—wars, terrorism, oppression, poverty, racism, abuse of power, lack of resources, climate deterioration, depletion of species in the animal world, etc., etc. So are you saying the state of our spirit world is the same?

We are One, child. Spirit world and physical world are One. What you have just enumerated are problems of the tangible aspects of this realm. All of your problems are rooted in your beliefs. As long as these beliefs do not change then your problems will keep being problems.

Which means we will just keep going round and round in circles. Like a dog trying to catch its own tail.

Yes. As long as most of you believe that the illusion of separation, judgment and ownership are real, then the cycle of fear will never stop. 

But change is from within. Change of beliefs is a personal choice. We can’t force people to change their beliefs.

No you, can’t. But you can show them. 

Isn’t that what we’ve been doing with these words?

Words do not show. Words tell. Actions speak louder than words.

You’re scaring me.