The Horror House

7 August 2019 Wednesday 11:41am

“The experience of happiness has nothing to do with a given event. There is no connection between exterior events & interior experiences.”

That’s Neale’s tweet. Someone made a comment that it’s a false statement especially with regards to the recent shootings in the US. I tend to agree with the comment. When something sad happens, it definitely connects to the sadness that I feel within, doesn’t it?

So you’re actually sad right now?

Me? No, not really. Why should I be sad?

You just said something about the recent shootings in the US and that since it’s a sad event then everyone who knows about it would also be very sad.

No, I’m referring to the friends, relatives and those in the know of those who died in the shooting. Not me specifically.

So since you’re not sad about the sad event of the shooting, then Neale’s tweet is true—There is no connection between exterior events & interior experiences.

I guess it’s true for some and not true for others.

So Neale’s statement is sometimes true and sometimes false.

Yeah, you could say that.

So that means that statement is a lie and a truth at the same time?

Huh? Is there such a thing?

You tell me, dear one.

Well, there’s love and fear. Love is The Ultimate Truth. While fear is an illusion. Love is the truth while fear is a lie. But love and fear are two separate things. One is the truth and one is a lie. We’re talking about one thing that is a truth and a lie at the same time.

Love.

What?

Love. Love is a lie and a truth.

No. Love is always true.

God is everything. God is love. Therefore, love is everything. Is fear a part of everything?

Yes. But fear is an illusion. It’s not real.

Everything is made up of what is real and what is not real—which are the illusions. The truth and the lies are existing at the same time. The trick is to know which is which. So with Neale’s statement, when it says that there is no connection between exterior events and interior experiences, he means that what is happening is happening. What you feel about what is happening is within your control. But what is happening outside of you, most often than not, is not within your control. Death, for example, has been regarded as a sad event in your world. But there are also those who celebrate death instead of bemoaning it. You always have a choice about how you feel about what is happening outside of you. Let’s imagine a mother and her 2 year-old toddler watching the news on tv about the shooting that you mentioned. The mother would probably shed a tear or two as she empathises with the survivors of the tragedy. Now, what about the toddler? Do you think the child would feel the same way as the mother?

I don’t think so. The 2 year-old would not yet know what’s going on.

That is because the child has not been taught what death is really about. Let’s say, the mother teaches the child that death is a form of celebration instead of a tragedy. Or maybe even teach the child that death is not at all important and when someone dies it’s just a matter of disposing the body. The importance is bestowed upon the concept that the soul has transitioned into another realm or another lifetime. The mother can even teach the child that death is merely a way of sleeping forever. My point is, the meaning of everything is the meaning of you give it. The meaning of everything is what you are teaching to your children. What’s important are the questions: Does that particular meaning work? Is that particular meaning productive? Does the meaning evoke other meanings? Or other opinions? Does the meaning have the ability to progress and alter as time goes along? All of you are at liberty to choose any meaning to everything that happens in your reality. Grieving, upon the death of a beloved, is a natural process of expressing one’s love for what has given joy and love during its existence. But nothing lasts forever, and that includes the feeling of grief. The pain comes when you cannot let go of something that has done its job and has begun its journey towards becoming a part of history. Letting it go and moving forward towards the future is one way of relieving that pain.

Wait. You just said it. The pain comes when you cannot let go of something. Isn’t that contradicting Neale’s tweet? That there is no connection between exterior events & interior experiences? When you say pain comes when you cannot let go of something, then there is definitely a connection between that something—which is an exterior event, and the pain—which is an interior experience.

It depends on what you are referring to. If you cannot let go of a belief—which is an interior experience, then there will be pain—which is also an interior experience.

Then you should have said we were talking about beliefs in the first place.

Aren’t we always?

Are we? I thought we were talking about the disconnect of an exterior event and interior experience. Where does belief come into that?

Let me explain with an example. There are those who love to experience horror houses during your Halloween holidays, aren’t there?

Yup. Excluding moi. Never been in one and never will. Ever.

Why not?

It’s scary!

Some people love being scared.

Not me. But those people are not really scared. They know that the stuff in there aren’t real. It’s more of the shock factor that attracts them. I hate being shocked. And scared.

But you know that the props aren’t real.

Of course. I just don’t like being scared. So anyway, where does belief come into going into a horror house?

When you see the sign “Horror House” what’s the first thing that pops into your mind?

That it’s scary.

Correct. Now, let’s say an alien from another planet visiting your world sees the sign “Horror House” for the first time. It has no idea what it’s really about. It goes in. Do you think it will get scared or shocked?

I have no idea.

Make a guess.

It probably won’t get scared or shocked.

Why not?

Because it has no idea that a horror house is meant to shock or scare.

An idea is a belief. That alien may not have an idea what fear is all about. It may not get scared or shocked in that horror house because it does not believe in fear. That’s where belief comes into Neale’s tweet: There is no connection between exterior events & interior experiences. The exterior event is the horror house which is believed to be scary. That belief can be changed into another belief—that it’s all fake. The choice of being fearful or lack of fear is the interior experience. It all depends on the belief. Do you see the disconnect between belief (which is an interior experience) and what is happening as an exterior event?

Yes, I do. So can I safely say that the belief that there is a connection between exterior event and interior experience is based on fear? While Neale’s tweet that “there is no connection between exterior events & interior experiences” is based on love?

Yes, you can safely say that. It all boils down to choice. You have the power to choose your interior experience in connection to what is happening outside of you. Love or fear. Courage or fear. You always have a choice.

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About Being A Coward

23 June 2019 Sunday 6:42pm

Just now, walking past a sitting area under the block of flats in my neighbourhood, I happen to glance at a couple of elderly men in wheelchairs and their caregivers. They were probably there just to relax and watch people walking by. But the women did not look like they were relaxing at all. One of them was sitting on the stone bench. She was using a sarong to cover her front because her Tshirt was pulled up at the back. The other woman was standing behind her. She looked like she was inspecting her friend’s back. I noticed reddish welts. And they certainly didn’t look like they were bug bites. It looked like she leaned back against a fence with diagonal metal bars. I only glanced for a couple of seconds but I knew at once they were burn marks. I walked on, pretending not to have noticed. I don’t think they saw me. By then the blood began to pound in my head and my heart beat a little faster. I thought, Shouldn’t I turn back and help her to report the abuse to the authorities or something? But still I walked on. I felt like crying and I felt angry at the same time. Why didn’t I turn back, G?

You tell me, dear one.

I didn’t turn back because…because…I’m a coward!

What is a coward, my dear?

A coward is “a person who lacks courage in facing danger, difficulty, opposition, pain, etc. A timid or easily intimidated person.”

So are you a person who lacks courage in facing danger, difficulty, opposition, pain, etc.? Are you a timid or an easily intimidated person? Be honest with yourself.

No. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be doing this.

Doing what, dear?

Helping women to not be oppressed anymore.

There’s your answer.

But I didn’t turn back! That’s not helping women!

Abuse is rooted in a belief. We are all about helping women change the belief that they deserve less respect than men. And we are also helping men change this belief. A belief is of the soul and mind. You didn’t turn back because your soul knows true change is from the soul. You are already helping that woman by bringing awareness to her particular situation. Because her situation is not uncommon. Will you be posting this online?

Yes, I suppose.

There you go. In order to help one woman, you have to help bring awareness to the problems most women are experiencing.

But what about that abused woman? Who will help her not be abused anymore?

Only she can help herself. And revealing her predicament to another is already one way of doing that. Let us hope they will help each other do the right thing. And you seeing evidence of her abuse is not a happenstance. Everything that happens in your life is never a happenstance. Everything that shows up in your life has a purpose. Your experiences are tools to help you evolve to the grandest and highest version of your spiritual self.

Not helping that woman is certainly not the grandest and highest version of my spiritual self. I’m still feeling guilty that I didn’t turn back to help.

You still can, you know.

I can still what?

Turn back.

I don’t think so. She might not be there anymore.

What if you see her again? Will you ask her about her predicament?

I really don’t know the answer to that. There are so many things to consider.

Like what, my dear?

Like would she be embarrassed if a total stranger confronted her about her back? Maybe they aren’t even burn marks. Then I’ll be the one embarrassed. Or her employer might find out that someone else knows about her predicament and then she might be abused even more.

You do know, my child, that those are just guesswork. Also known as excuses. They are mere speculations. Which means they do not exist.

Also known as fears.

Yes.

Then I am a coward after all.

You may say whatever you say you are, dear one. But what you are doing or not doing is not as important as what you are being. What do you think you are being?

I’m being a coward.

Tell me what is a coward again, please.

A coward is “a person who lacks courage in facing danger, difficulty, opposition, pain, etc. A timid or easily intimidated person.”

Is a coward being fearful or being courageous?

A coward is being fearful.

Are you in fear right now?

Not now, no. But I was when I passed by that abused woman!

Are you very sure she was abused?

No, I’m not one hundred percent sure. Where is this going?

This is going nowhere until you are one hundred percent sure that she was abused.

But the only way to be one hundred percent sure is to walk up to her and ask her to her face!

Then do it.

I don’t want to!

Why not?

Because I’m a coward!

I give up.

God is giving up. That’s laughable.

Thought vs Feeling

5 April 2019 Friday 8:26am

Thoughts are not feelings, they are ideas of how you “should” feel. When thoughts and feelings get confused, truth becomes clouded, lost.~ Neale Donald Walsch

So what’s the difference between thought and feeling?

When you’re hungry, what do you feel?

Hunger.

When you’re hungry, what are you thinking?

I’m thinking I need to eat.

That’s the difference.

Huh? I don’t understand.

Hunger is a feeling. The word ‘hunger’ is the name you gave to a sensation in your body wanting food. That sensation is the feeling.

But isn’t ‘feeling hungry’ also a thought?

Yes. A thought is the meaning you give to a feeling. A thought is also what you do about the feeling. Imagine a world with no words. If there weren’t any words to describe ‘hunger’ what will happen?

I guess no one will know that I’m feeling hungry.

No, child. You can communicate with your body even without words. If you suddenly look pale and weak, wouldn’t someone deduce that you’re probably feeling hungry?

I suppose so. Um, I still can’t see the difference.

Read Neale’s quote again—the first sentence.

Okay. “Thoughts are not feelings, they are ideas of how you “should” feel.”

Try to use the concept of hunger in that sentence.

I’ll try. Okay…The thought that I need to eat is not a feeling. It is an idea of what I should do about the feeling of hunger.

Now, read the next sentence.

Okay. “When thoughts and feelings get confused, truth becomes clouded, lost.” This one sounds complicated.

Only if you believe it is so. Now do the same.

Use it with the concept of hunger?

Yes.

Oh man. Here goes..The THOUGHT that I need to eat just because I’m FEELING hungry is confusing, my truth becomes clouded and lost. That doesn’t make any sense. When anyone is feeling hungry he will definitely put into action the thought of eating. That’s the way it works. What’s confusing about that?

Have you heard of the expression, “I skipped lunch”? Or “I skipped breakfast”? Or “I’m on a diet”? Or…

Okay, I get it. Just because someone is feeling hungry that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s going to eat. So if someone is feeling hungry and yet doesn’t eat, what does that show us about confusing thought with feeling? And the truth gets clouded and lost if you do?

When you in particular get hungry, what do you do?

I have to eat something. Even if it’s just some crackers or biscuits. I always try to have some with me, especially when I’m travelling. Because if I don’t, I’ll feel nauseous and dizzy. It’s a very yucky feeling. I tried fasting before—hated it. Fasting isn’t for me. I prefer to eat smaller meals if I really have to fast. Anyway, I’m still confused. Thought and feeling—what’s the difference?

Maybe hunger isn’t the appropriate concept to use to explain it. How about something else?

Like?

Like love, for instance.

Nah. Let’s stick with hunger.